How do you get your spouse to do his share?

Unfortunately there is no substitute for 1) open communication from both sides and 2) both sides utilizing their own willpower even when one or both feels like crap b/c of sickness, job loss, etc.

Cleaning sucks, I know. I am naturally lazy myself. But still, needs to be done.

If he's not willing to pitch in you can either a) do all of it, and decide to be okay with, and work on not allowing yourself to be angry over it or b) do only what you need to be done (your own clothes, wash the dishes you need, cook only enough food for your own dinner) or c) explain very calmly and firmly that this stresses you emotionally, which effects you physically, and there will be damage to your emotional and physical relationship until this changes. (Set your limits--ex. no sex, or less sex.) And follow-through. Do not yell, do not get angry, just stand by your word, even when it hurts.

It can be hard to cut yourself off from your spouse, especially when you feel for what they're going through. But he has to respect you, even when he is going through a hard time. If you're doing what you can to be there for him, you expect the same from him--b/c this situation is causing a "hard time" for you. And that's not fair.

Men by nature are mostly lazy, tell him no sex as you are too tired having to do everything.

He could be suffering with depression, it might make him feel less of a man seeing you working and him not able to do that. Switching roles is difficult as he is clearly a worker and not a stay at home husband.

You are going to have to have lots of chats with him and recognise its only temporary and that he will soon be working again.

Best of luck.

Stop doing the work around the house - just leave it. When you get home - tell him you are having a sandwich, and you are leaving the ingredients out if he needs one also. Then plop in front of the TV for the rest of the evening. Ignore the rest.

When you get home, just start watching TV, put your feet up and relax. When he starts asking you what you are doing just tell him you are doing what he did all day for the last 8 weeks. If he asks you what's for dinner, tell him whatever he fixes will be just fine with you.

Try this a few days in a row and see what happens.

Don't go grocery shopping and don't cook, he will soon enough realize it when his tummy is screaming for food and there is nothing left to eat. Then make a compromise that if you cook (or one of the other things) then he should do the rest. Or just deny him sex. Or cake.

Stop doing it.

Wash your own clothes, cook for only yourself, etc. He will catch on. I'm sure you've already explained that you aren't his mommy.

kick him out and tell him not come back until he pulls his weight.

shove a pencil up his as