Do you have to be freinds with your ex if you are co-parenting but living together?

No, you don't have to be friends, but you definitely have to respect each other and mind your boundaries. It's really good that you two are able to cooperate in the important goal of raising your kids - friendship is optional; respect is mandatory, remembering that this is setting an example for your kids as to how to resolve a problem .

Hopefully she will get over her meanness and attitude - because it sure seems that this is part of the "respect" aspect of how you both ought to be treating each other. Hopefully this will get easier as time goes on, as you both move on. If it doesn't get better in a few months, it might be a good idea to suggest a couple of joint sessions with a counselor in order to work out some basic ground rules, because you shouldn't have to be her punching bag. Good luck....

Living under the same roof is pointless after a while. You can be friendly but not friends. This means speaking respectfully to one another about the kids but not going for coffee together.

You need to respect each other.

When she gets punchy or mean, laugh at her @ss and tell her, that its really sad that she has to act that way.

Even if you don't feel like laughing, laugh. She will begin to feel foolish and police herself up, unless she is just an evil bytch.

My soon to be ex-husband and I are living under the same roof until he can save to move out...these are our ground rules...

1) Be amicable

2) If you decide to date - there is to be no mention of it nor is another outsider to be brought home to the shared household (that would be very hurtful and rude)

3) For the sake of our child - when she is home - be nice to each other so she feels we get along

It doesn't mean that neither of us has moments of irritability or say something stupid because it would be impossible not to. We are just trying to be kind to each other for the sake of our child until he can move out.

I certainly hope one of you is planning to move soon...physical separation is a very good thing.

After moving out...we will continue to be friendly and amicable as much as possible but we will never be "friends" in the true sense of the word ever.

Curious as to why u all live 2gether, but she may still harbor some resentment 4 the break-up. Most women do, and no you dont have to be friends just cordial with each other

You don't have to be friends but if you're 1) living together and 2) raising a child together, you should be able to be civil and cordial towards each other.

But if you both want to move on, i suggest someone moving out. You'll hold each other back by continuing to live like a cohesive family when you're not one.