I need some help with fiance?

Just tell him to stop it. He loves you, right? Then he will surely respect your wishes and find something that you can mutually enjoy, You have to be honest.

I like the ans. from (((DM))), short, to the point BUT ALL factual!!! WHY should you be "required" to do something/anything you're uncomfortable doing?! This sure wouldn't be my choice of "love making" to say the least! Ask him if a broom handle shoved up his rear end has ANY loving, caring sexual feeling to him. Let him KNOW that's just how you feel about it, that's all it does for you...Blah on that. To each their own, as some actually DO enjoy it. To me, it's just not the "proper" place to be "making love" & is NOT intended for the use of love making or sensations. To each their own, that's what makes us ALL different, thank God for that!!! YES, let him KNOW how it does feel to you, you have EVERY rite to do so...best to you, honey...:)

come on. is he likes ur heart or the hole. if he is going to be ur fiance, then u should tell him, it is not that u dont like it, it hurts u by physical and emotional way. if he understands that he is a normal man. hope he is not drunk or on drug. if he is normal, he will listen to u and he must. who knows, if he really changed and doing right thing, u can ask him, one day u want the back (after some time). if he says, i like it but it will hurt ur butt, then he is ur man. then figure out what u want to do. mostly a man should respect a woman. atleast for this butt.

Uh, yeah. You shouldn't feel like you have to do something you're not comfortable with. You should definitely talk to him about it. Maybe you could try something new that both of you are into, instead. I'm not into it either and my husband doesn't have a problem with that.

I don't even know where to really begin, Except, if you don't like it don't do it. Thats really all there is to it. If he can't respect that, then he wouldn't be my fiance. You do have a right to say no, especaially if you don't like something like that. Its not everybody's deal.

Who's hole is it?

Enough said. Tell him.

Yes, tell him

Just relax and try to enjoy it. There may come a time when you want him to sexually experiment for you