How is it possible to forgive betrayal?

It is all according to what you mean by forgive. I would never trust the individual again but forgiveness is more for you than for the villain. To me forgiveness is letting go of the bitterness and anger and moving on. It doesn't mean that you stupidly lay down so he can run you over with the same truck he used last time!

Betrayal is the breaking of trust ?Some philosophers argue that trust is more than a relationship of reliance. Philosophers have made a difference between trust and reliance by saying that trust can be betrayed, whilst reliance can only be disappointed ,we can rely on our clock to give the time, but we do not feel betrayed when it breaks, thus, we cannot say that we trusted it; we are not trusting when we are suspicious of the other person, because this is in fact an expression of distrust.Someone who betrays others is commonly called a traitor or betrayer.Strong words , I think we can forgive the breaking of trust , and reliance .The betrayal is a different thing altogether , so we really have to think about this , we forgive time and time Again breaking of trust , and reliance / Betrayal is another thing and as much as we don't want to forgive this one ,we must or we would never trust them again and if we can't trust them again we can't forgive so it is a big question to answer /is it possible maybe

Betrayal can be hard to accept and to forgive. But it is surely possible to learn to accept the betrayal and let go. However, Knowing that it only hurts you and not the person who hurt you is an excellent place to start. But crossing the bridge to forgiveness can be difficult. If you want so badly to forgive and let go but can't no matter what you do, there may be an important reason why?

Often, betrayal can leave its victims feeling vulnerable and sometimes internal defenses can kick in for self-protection. So, an unconscious belief might be "if I let go or forgive, I can get hurt again." If that resonates with you maybe it's worth further exploration. Sometimes letting go and forgiving means feeling safe enough to do so...

Regardless, of what theory or techniques you learn, challenging thoughts that keep you from moving past a betrayal and creating alternative options is an essential part of the healing process.

I would think the first thing to do is talk to the one who supposedly did the betraying.

Betrayal can range from something minor to something really bad. Sometimes, a person may not see that betrayal the same as others or not know it was a betrayal.

Many times, a betrayal can be forgiven... if the person really matters to you. The real problem is trust... even if forgiven, there is always a question of trusting that person again.

How do you trust again? I am still trying to figure that part out.

Heck yeah!

Everyone gets betrayed--to some degree--HUNDREDS of times in their lifetime.

It could be something as 'simple' as a woman not taking back the extra $$ the cashier accidentally gave her at the checkout, or someone telling others what you told them in confidence, talking behind another's back, ending a friendship over something petty, divorce ('to have & to hold' being ignored), adoption, oh the list could go on & on.

The harm in the betrayal all depends on the recipient. Something that is 'not too big of a deal' to one may be a 'very big deal' to another.

But most of the things we get over. Like if someone cut ahead of you in line, well, you get over that quickly. It was 'betrayal', but nothing big! Or your mortgage company putting you at a higher interest rate b/c you were one day late with one of your payments, even though you'd been faithfully paying on time for 10 years--& sometimes making double payments! But you chalk it up as 'the nature of the beast' & get on with life.

So it is easy to forgive betrayal, but sometimes it takes years & years of outpatient psychotherapy to do so.

I've been betrayed quite a few times in my long life and while I was willing to work things out with my betrayer most of the time, the element of distrust was always there. I never found a way past it, my guard would always be up around that person.

Sometimes it is not possible to forgive or to forget.

My father and my mother's best friend did the most un forgivable betrayal to my mother to to us 4 children.

We over the years sort of learned to live with it and let him back in our lives but at arms distance.

He had an affair with my mother's married best friend who lived right across the st. from us.

We lost everything when it came out that she was pregnant from my father and that he hadn't been going to his job for a very long time but spending his days with her across the st. from my mother while the women's husband was at work and her kids were at school.

We lost our house and a moving co. came to collect our unpaid for new furniture, my father didn't care if his children slept in the st. as long as he could sleep with that women.

It took many years but my mother let him visit us on weekends, he only made 2 or 3 child support payments in all of the years. My brother was only 3 years old at the time they divorced and he only made 3 tiny payments in all of the years he was growing up.

Can't forgive that, our lives would of been so much different if he could of kept his pants up.

When I saw this I thought of Peter and Judas. Peter's three times betrayal of knowing Christ cut him to the core. He was truly ashamed each time he denied Christ. He took nothing for his betrayal except fear and shame. His denial only hurt him, but he returned back to where he belonged and that was with the others. Judas however, betrayed Christ for 30 pieces of silver. He had opportunity to turn that very night when Christ spoke of his betrayal and death at the table. Yet he chose to not take heed and left. Imagine being in the presence of God and still having that hardened heart to close oneself from receiving the Truth. Judas' conscience was seared and hard and no way did he even desire to repent. When Mary Magdalene saw and spoke to Jesus, He told her to "tell the disciples and Peter" that He had risen. This shows forgiveness when Peter's name was brought up in that way.

Yes, there is forgiveness when there is true repentance.

It is but only if you truly forgive and are willing and want to do it. Most use it as an excuse to get even. They keep it in reserve till thy are tired and found something better or different and bring it up with the idea that the trust is gone and just cant be forgiven. I say forgive but dont forget. "Fool me once shame on you,,,fool me twice, shame on me."

Think of it as the price of an education, It is hard to forgive those who hurt us, but every time someone betrays us it makes us a little smarter. Also, it is not mandatory to forgive, you don't have to if you don't want to and that is ok too. But, you must move past it. You must try to not let it define you.