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ted asked in Family & RelationshipsFamily · 9 years ago

8 year old step daughters mum shaved stripes into the side of her head - Husband not happy!?

What do you think about this? they have shared care of her 50/50 and last night she came home and her step dad had shaved stripes into the side of her beautiful long hair!

my step daughter told us that before they did it she asked her mum if she should ring dad to see if it was ok, her mum told her whilst laughing that he would just get mad and to hide it from him. My husband is angry about it, and she does things like this all the time, would you be? but what can you do about it? my husband doesnt know how to deal with his daughters mother

he always calls the mother before doing anything important like that (not that he would consider it) to seek her approval, she never gives him the same respect, just teaches her own daughter to lie to her dad.

Update:

We didnt get mad at my step daughter at all and she would have known that too. When asked if she liked it she was unsure.

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  • 9 years ago
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    I would say its time to call your lawyer. You can not let this so called mother teach her child to lie. That is only going to confuss her from what you guys are teaching her and what her mother is. I really feel for this child because either way she is going to lose. If you get custody of her then she will not be able to see her mum so much. If you let it stay the way it is then she is not going to understand why lying is bad because mum lets her do it. I wish your step daughter all the best and i hope she chooses to do the right thing. AND I FEEL FOR YOU because your kinda just stuck in the middle of wanting to support your husband but also having to deal with your step daughters mum. Such a sticky situation. I wish all the best for you guys!!!

  • 9 years ago

    it is just hair and that is what the girl wanted so clearly she should be allowed to get it done.

    im not saying that it was right for her not to call because clearly it was not.

    maybe next time the father wants to do something, dont tell her mother and see what happens.

    obviously dont do this for everything but he is her father .

    if she doesnt start asking or telling what she plans on doing, maybe call her out on it, or talk to someone who is in charge of the custody matters and see what he can do about it.

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    No easy way to deal with complete LOSERS. Document everything and call your lawyer if the ex refuses to be a RESPONSIBLE parent.

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