How to let go of a friend who was nice but then started to get mean?

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At the beginning of this school year, I became friends with a girl named Rachel who was fairly nice to me. We talked, she liked a lot of the things that I liked, and she was willing to sit with me at lunch when none else would. Eventually two other girls started to sit with us at lunch and we all became friends. 

But now she has started to throw personal jokes at me just because I like stuff that most other people do not. She teases me because I really enjoy an old cartoon "Jonny Quest" a lot and have a kind of crush on the main character, and she also likes to throw jokes at me just because I love to read Harry Potter (the religion she is apart of doesn't allow her to read HP) and she can't.  And I've been writing a story that she has tried to change around. I got so mad at her that I ended up bringing her changes to an abrupt end by having the two characters she tried putting together break up.

And she covers all her jokes and comments up by saying "It was just a joke" even though to me, it's not. 

And just yesterday, she saw me talking to a guy who has been my friend for a couple years now. Rachel started giggling and was telling everyone that he and I are are boyfriend and girlfriend, when in reality he has a girlfriend already (Who I am also friends with), and she knows that he and I are friends. Rachel hurt both our feelings through that comment, and again ended it with "It was just a joke". 

So, I'm sick and tired of her comments and all that "It was just a joke" crap. But she has gotten so close to me that now I don't know how to get rid of her. I tried to just distance myself from her for a while, but she responded with fake tears and all that crap. Now, I am again trying to keep her away from me by distancing myself. But it is not working. She keeps trying to grab my attention, and she's been trying to sign up for the same classes as me next year so that she can be with more (She already sees me every day during third period). I don't think we have much in common after all, and I just don't think we can be friends. And for a few days now I've just be walking away from her and ignoring her every time she tries talking to me. She tried to HUG me today and I ran and started helping some of the other Chorus girls (Chorus is my 3rd period) dust off trophies. 

So, how do I tell her that I don't like it when she teases me about my personal life and that we just can't be friends anymore? I don't want to do it in front of the other girls who hang out with us at lunch, because it doesn't involve them at all and I would still like to be their friends. But I barely even see her at any other time of day, and when I DO see her. She tries to spend every waking minute with me and tries to capture my attention. That's all she seems to want!!

What do I do? Please help!

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Talk to her over the phone (DONT TEXT HER Trust me) ,Or if you have a chance when you two are alone just tell her you do not wish to speak to her anymore. You do not have to give her details. The less information she knows the better. Oh and don't spread how much you hate her around because it will bite you in the butt later. Don't be mean, but be firm!

soccergirl24 · Answer

sit down with her and have a serious conversation with her be like listen i need to have a serious talk with you. then explain nicely that it really hurts when she does that. if she truly means no harm and wants to be your friend but just got a little carried away with the jokes then she will apologize and stop. if she really is like defensive and like no I'm not ur wrong, then nicely say i don't think we should be friends.  i think I'm the same age as you or around there...im 15....and I'm having friend problems too...i just posted a question on it actually.  hope i helped and if u wanna talk you can email me. i don't know you so i cant judge you or anything but you can vent :) hope i helped and good luck!

Anonymous · Answer

Just talk to her directly. Tell her what you feel. Don't be scared about it, she won't kill you.
I was told ladies' relationships are usually more superficial than for men. I can't prove that. But, she seems to have already formed an unshakeable opinion about you. So in talking to her, you shouldn't be planning on reconciling; just exiting gracefully. But you could try explaining to her how she helped you. Maybe she'll change.
Some good friendships have to end.

lausier · Answer

it form of feels that your chum is merely attempting to impression her bf via bullying you adult males. needless to say she's somewhat insecure herself and feels she needs to have him think of she's the single on top of issues each and every of the time. the two you and your different chum do could desire to stand up for yourselves, yet I do understand that this is extra handy reported than accomplished. i could propose you consult with this chum who's bullying you while the bf's no longer around, and clarify to her that she would be able to't cope with you like she does, through fact do you particularly must be acquaintances with somebody who activates you each and every time their bf is around? seems such as you're able to easily tell her the score, then drop her thoroughly if she would not unquestionably value your friendship. You definately deserve a bigger chum than guy or woman who bullies you to impression their bf.

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