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Can we get back together?
My ex husband and I have been divorced 4 years now. We have maintained a great friendship, so much so it makes other people uncomfortable. I still see him when he is in town (Air-Force), we usually plan a little event we he does visit. We tried match.com together and we have been there for each other during crazy relationships and bad exes.
He is my best friend and I recently asked him if I could ever win his love and affection back, now that we are older/wiser.
His answer is as follows:
"It's not that I don't want to answer the question, I'm just thinking long and hard about it. I'm sorry I should have told you that I wasn't intentionally ignoring you. So I'm sorry for that."
What does that mean? Should I walk away from him and the friendship? Should I pretend I never mentioned it?
-Confused
ETA: He knows that he can be direct and I will survive. He has been direct with many of things.
ETA: I have this fear that if/when he gets married he won't need me as a friend and I can admit that terrifies me.
5 Answers
- ?Lv 79 years agoFavorite Answer
You wait and see. Let him make up his mind.I hope it works out for you.
- Anonymous9 years ago
I think it means, just what he is saying. He is thinking about it. You have been married and then divorced. He is being honest and after all you have been through together, he does not want to make a rash decision. I say, be patient. You do not need to walk away from the relationship, just give it time and see where it goes. Be thankful that you have that friendship and he respects you enough to be honest.
- 9 years ago
Sounds to me like he is possibly thinking about it but unsure what to do...he might not want to get back together for it all to end again (which would mean he would be hurt again and hurt you too) I always believed it is better to be friends than nothing at all, especially seeing as you have a good friendship now! I would be patient and see what happens....things have a funny way of turning out :) Good luck!!
- 9 years ago
It kind of sounds like he wants to keep things how they are and doesn't know how to say that without hurting your feelings. But he could just be weighing out the pros and cons, but if he has to think that long about being with you again, that might not be a good sign.
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- iyamacogLv 79 years ago
Sounds like he's seriously considering the situation. Obviously he doesn't wish to make the same mistake/s again.....Time may be your best answer......â¥â¥
