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Dating a woman with a child?

Hi there. So I am 28. Pretty much have my stuff together. It's been about 10 months since my last relationship. I figured it's time to get back to the dating scene. I have met this younger woman, 26. There is interest on both sides and an attraction. However, this is uncharted territory for me. Why? Well, she has a child. Any drawbacks, negatives in dating a woman who has a child? I am looking to date and hopefully find something serious...if it is meant to be. However, that being said, I am not ready to get married. Any advice?

Update:

Well, just to add. This is still in the very early stages of the relationship. We have been talking for about a month. We have tentatively scheduled a date for this Saturday evening. (A Comedy Club). I last spoke to her on Tuesday evening. After we spoke she sent me a photo of herself sporting a classy, sexy dress. But haven't heard from her since. I know the ball is pretty much in my court. It's my move. Just I haven't ever been with girl who has had a child.

Update 2:

Well, just to add. This is still in the very early stages of the relationship. We have been talking for about a month. We have tentatively scheduled a date for this Saturday evening. (A Comedy Club). I last spoke to her on Tuesday evening. After we spoke she sent me a photo of herself sporting a classy, sexy dress. But haven't heard from her since. I know the ball is pretty much in my court. It's my move. Just I haven't ever been with girl who has had a child.

Update 3:

Man, this blows...all talk and nothing. Dating sucks.

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  • Anonymous
    9 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    Don't date women with kids. That's it. Leave her at home. Those women are tainted and not attractive anymore.

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    No problem dating a woman with a child. It does complicate things sometimes, obviously, but as long as you're OK with it, there's no problem. Just take into consideration she does have a child and at least in the beginning, her child comes first in her life. After all, you're the new kid on the block.

    You don't need to do anything differently than you normally would. You can't assume she's looking for a husband right away either. Women's priorities change a little when they have a baby, but they are still women. She may be perfectly fine with taking the seriousness of the relationship slowly, but getting to the sex right away. in fact, that's more likely.

    And she's probably insecure about dating guys and how they'll react when she has a child. So my advice is be very honest with her about what you are looking for. Women would much prefer a guy being honest and upfront even if she doesn't like what she's hearing.

  • 9 years ago

    I have mixed feelings. A child's thoughts and feelings must always be taken into consideration. There is nothing wrong with dating this young lady who happens to be a single mother. If your both have begun to have growth in feelings it's best to sit down to discuss expectations if there's any. What your looking to happen or not happen from dating now and down the road. Remember the longer you're dating and active in her child's daily life the more in the child mind he/she will expect you to always be there. There's a strong possibility each of you could and would become so emotionally attached. the longer involved. So yes a discussion is much needed now respectfully so you get input on her feelings about you're not ready to get married. Rushing into a marriage is never a good thing anyway. But figure out seriously what are your long term personal goals before discussing matters. You can't come to the table with half of a plan. too many kids get so deeply attached to a parents girlfriend or boyfriend considering them as that parental role model. But then the person decides it's gotten too serious and they aren't ready to settle down so they end the relationship. With that male or female, but cut the ties with child as well. That child worries and wonders if it's their fault mom or dad friend doesn't come around anymore. All in all think about the child too, but find out exactly what you want out of this , as well what she's looking to happen. Good Luck. If it's meant to be , it will be either way.

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  • ?
    Lv 4
    9 years ago

    negatives - you get less time with her because she's probably wanting to spend time with her child

    Positives - you get a chance to see if you will make a good dad or not

    - maybe the two of you will work out really well in the future

    - this will be CHARTED territory for you if you decide to give it a chance

    Source(s): I have a girl in my class too, single and pregnant, but we find each other attractive.
  • 9 years ago

    The only thing negative about the child is that she has to give it a lot if attention so you may feel neglected at times

  • 9 years ago

    Be good to the kid. Leave discipline of the child completely up to her. Keep in mind the kid comes before you.

    Other than that, no, not really.

  • 9 years ago

    OMG Jake!! LOL!! My advice is, if you're interested in her, just know its a package deal. You must accept her child and everything that comes along with it.

  • 9 years ago

    Don't expect her to be tight.....

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