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Natasha asked in Family & RelationshipsFriends · 9 years ago

would you date her if you knew this..............?

my best friend in the whole world had been really big all her life .. in terms of weight i mean. she has the most beautiful looking face like a china doll with full lips and long almond shaped eyes.. she has the best personality too... the thing is growing up with her she always ad trouble dating guys in high school.. she never dated but everyone was her friend cus she was just plain awesome..lol.... anyways we are in out 20's now and she was still a big girl.. i know she would not like me telling her exact weight and im the only one who knows but i will level it off to about 300 maybe a little more but is she ever tall shes 5'10 so shes portioned really well.. anyways she wanted something that would be permanent cus everything she tried in terms of dieting and gymming just didn't help.. and i know i was with her the whole time.. she went in for weight loss surgery.. it was the sleeve gastro-mectomy thing where only 1/3rd of her stomach is left.. she lost 60% of her weight and not she looks AMAZING... im sorry this is long but what i wanted to know from guys out there... would you date a beautiful women who needed a little( "surgical help" as she puts it) .. i mean i have known her all my life and its not like she eats crap ... she hates sugar lol and salty / spicey food ... and she loved salads she was just bigger naturally ... but seeing beauty ( im sorry i dont have a pic cus i know it would make her feel a bit off but think of a much lighter skin toned version of kimora lee simmons) knowing this .. would you guys be okay with dating a woman like that.....

i tell her that any guy would love her no matter what but she feels a little embarrassed about the surgery thing...even though she looks good.. some help please? thnx.......

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  • Anonymous
    9 years ago
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    A great personality can go a long way, so I'd date her if I agreed with you about that and she is great looking.

    On the other hand, there are many personality traits that assist in a person becoming obese, as well as other physiological traits. It is possible that she (like a friend of mine) will simply gain weight again, despite the surgery- the only difference being that this time she'll be obese with a scar.

    I would definitely be more inclined to date a girl who lost weight naturally than one who was provoked to using surgery.

    I'm also not confident enough in my overwhelming holiness to say that I would date her even if she is/will become fat, and I think that people who propose that most "good" men will do so is preposterous.

    So the scar and the potential for weight gain, not to mention any lingering insecurities she may have about the weight loss, can be huge deterrents.

    ASSUMING that her personality is excellent not only in general but in relation to mine, which is, of course, more important than whether her friends think it's good, then her behavior in relation to how well she can keep her body fit now and which lifestyle choices she adheres too in order to savor the value of her surgery will determine the sustaining interest of her next boyfriend.

    Also, there is a chance that the love bond formed between her and her next man will become so powerful that weight eventually not matter, so her fluctuations will eventually become irrelevant. After all, all beauty fades.

    But anyway, the ultimate answer to your question is: Probably, but it might not last very long.

    Edit:

    Dev has a better point.

    If a girl is big, yet she's still both proud and confident in who she is, then she'll have nothing to worry about. That equates to a strong personality that men will find enticing- it may even make the size of the girl alluring instead of revolting; however, such confidence is not generally a trait of one who gets weight loss surgery.

    Source(s): I've dated heavy girls, thin girls and thin/average girls who used to be heavy. My favorite was an average girl who used to be a little heavy and had the determination to work it off.
  • Absolutely guys would date her. Probably 50% of guys don't even mind if a girl has fake boobs...they aren't going to care if it was something she did more for health reasons. In fact, even the 50% of guys who DON'T like fake boobs would still like her, since she's such a down to earth, nice person who didn't get the surgery because she was super vain or flaky. She should have no problems at all=)

  • 5 years ago

    Ah, maybe you should lean over to him and whisper in his ear or make apparent eye contact and shift your eyes from his face to his...Crotch, he'd quite often trap on. Ryukyuu-certainly when they are sitting on bar tools, ewww, :) lol @ dru, yeah an awfully significant appendage is breaking free, oh my, it's an anaconda! Lmfao! Yeah, now that is what i am speaking about rowdy, just attain out with each fingers, firmly preserve his head down and tuck it in, softly so his zipper does not get caught on some thing. Lol

  • 9 years ago

    Honestly, I am a little on the large side also and I have had the same problem... I have tried dieting and exercise... But for me, I found that having confidence in myself helped one hell of a lot! You don't need to look skinny or flawless! Everyone has their flaws and they should be proud of them! It makes you who you are and you should never try to change yourself! Be proud of who you are and flaunt it girl! I bet loads of guys would have the same view as me :)

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  • izzy
    Lv 4
    9 years ago

    It doesn't matter what she looks/looked like as long as you like her. I'd rather date someone that's not too attractive than date someone hot that treats me like crap. Even the guy I'm dating now is not the hottest guy I've ever seen. But he treats me really good. And that makes me love him.

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    I would date her either way. You say she has a great personality? Sold. Besides, she sounds beautiful. If she wanted the surgery to be more confident, then that's okay. If she thinks she looks more beautiful, that's great. ^_^ I would date her.

    Source(s): My head
  • 9 years ago

    Yes what the heck do you really think models and actors really look like that they all get surgery and Photoshoped its ok for models n actors but not normal people it ******** this society is ******** it wouldn't bother me one bit it shows she did something about it and looks amazing

  • 5 years ago

    Take a lap around the grocery store before starting shopping.

  • 5 years ago

    Skip waiting suites. When you have an appointment, check in and then go for a walk until your receptionist phones you.

  • 4 years ago

    Paint your own toe-nails as opposed to sitting for a pedicure.

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