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what is wrong with my best mate ?
me and this guy have known each other for 7 - 8 years now, we have been best mates for soo long, and i think we know each other more than anyone.
just before we started at different university's i rang him a few times (all of which went to voicemail) so i decided that i would stop being desperate for his attention and that he would see the missed calls at some point and try to contact me back... it has been a couple of months now and hes made no effort, to top it off i see Facebook posts between him and some other 'old' mates on Facebook, yet he has no time to contact his best friend ?! its as if hes completely forgotten me !
what should i do ?? i obviously don't want to be a needy friend and keep fighting for his attention, yet if i just let it go i feel like im going to lose the friend that ive put soo much effort into the last 8 years.
i understand that were both at different uni's now and have new mates, but that doesn't stop me from contacting other mates, even if its just the once to see how they are getting on !?
3 Answers
- ?Lv 79 years agoFavorite Answer
I know it hurts when your effort isn't reciprocated.
The hardest thing is sometimes not knowing why you've been cut off. If you feel that it would help you to know his reasons, then by all means, try one last-ditch attempt, and ask him outright. Write a letter or send him an email or facebook message. Explain that you miss his friendship, and wonder what you've done to deserve the brush-off.
Whether you decide to do this or not, it's best to prepare for the worst. The harsh truth is, if he wanted to talk to you, he would NOT be ignoring you this way.
It's tough when you've been friends for so long. But friendship is a two-way street. It isn't just up to you to maintain it. Sometimes when we're not getting the attention and consideration we need from someone, we think that by making more and and more effort, we will bring them back.
It never ever works like that.
You've done all you can do. Say your piece if you have to, but it's up to him now.
- 9 years ago
It seems like something happend bettwen you two that changed his mind about you! .. is both of you friends with some girls !
If you can reach out to him .. just ask him " what up! if somthing on your mind .. spit out!"
# Whatever happend bettwen the two of you .. if you know that you haven't done anything wrong to him ..then your boy might be mistaken about something! .. if there is something in his mind he should confront you about it like big boys do! , if not then let him be! .. don't waste your time or bother chasing him .
Best wishes!
- 9 years ago
i've been there. just take a break and let him come to u. if he doesn't then his loss!
