I'm confused about relationships...?

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Yes, I know this is a re-ask, but I didn't really get the answer I was looking for, so I thought I'd try again :P 

Okay, now I know this is EXTREMELY awkward, but coming from a confused teen, I really need answers :S

So, in my life time, I've liked three guys. The weird thing is, they're all within my culture, same race as I am, and they all speak my first language.

I know that two guys have liked me, but unfortunately, I have not liked any of them.

That is some background on my basically non-existent love life... 

Anyways, my real question is:

Why am I so awkward around guys?

When I don't want to reject someone in fear of hurting them, before they get a chance, I start being really mean and rude, to make them back off... 

Also, I can barely hold conversations with guys, which is why I've never been in a relationship. I'm fifteen years old, by the way. Is there anyway I can become more comfortable with this?

I really appreciate your answers guys, thank you :) 

Happy Holidays!
16 hours ago
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To add, I always become tongue tied and stutter a lot when I try to talk to someone in general... why am I so socially awkward? :/
16 hours ago

I forgot to add... I'm a lot more comfortable talking to them online...
16 hours ago

dom215 · Accepted Answer

Vanessa I've been there and done that and so have many others your age... I think that deep down in your mind and heart you know your not ready for a relationship yet but you also want to feel they are attracted to you  ... So to protect yourself you put up a wall around yourself to stay safe... Being ready has nothing to do with your age as that's only a number... When your ready, you'll feel it and you'll know...

Anonymous · Answer

"When I don't want to reject someone in fear of hurting them, before they get a chance, I start being really mean and rude, to make them back off...  " I do the same thing I dont even know I am being mean. But when a guy I dont like is flirting with me I tend to act rude and stand offish because they are not what I like? iF THAT makes sense. I do not know how  to change that is why I am on this website. Just be yourself.

KCYork · Answer

Everyone is more comfortable talking online because you don't have to see the reaction they have to what you say, and you have more time to think about what you are going to say. The reason you are so awkward around people you like is probably just from lack of experience. You might get nervous when you talk to people because you are afraid they will judge you. True friends won't judge you for being yourself and if they do judge you then 1. they aren't a real friend. and 2. they arent worth your time so it doesnt matter

peachesncream · Answer

did you hook up with any of them?

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