My ex told me he put me on his visitation list,but i'm not. what should i do?

My ex is currently incarcerated,and he isn't slated to be released until September of 2015. We broke up long before he got into any trouble,and he reached out to me when he went to jail. He was incarcerated at three separate county facilities pending trial(he had charges in multiple jurisdictions). Before he was sentenced to serve time while he was in the first facility,he never once asked me to visit him,and neither did he write me back,no matter how many times that I wrote him. When he was sentenced to serve time in the second jurisdiction,he asked me a few times when I was going to come and visit him,and I told him to put me on his visitation list. A week later he told me that I was denied when he put me on his list,but didn't tell me why. I haven't gotten into any trouble and I know that there are only a handful of reasons why someone would be denied,and neither of them applied to me,and to make a long story short,the personnel at the facility told me that he NEVER put me on his list,and you can't ban someone that wasn't put on the list to begin with.

After he was sent to a state facility. He repeatedly asked me when I was going to visit him,and that he was waiting. Whenever I said that I would,but couldn't at the last minute,he got very upset with me. He practically started to badger me with repeated requests to visit him. Well,I found out that he had a girlfriend when he reached out to me,and I feel like he only planned to have me waiting in the wings in case she bailed on him,and I believe that she did,when he went to prison.

I'm not the type to really make assumptions,but I can't seem to get an honest answer from him. Is is that he just didn't want to see me? Or was he afraid that I would find out that he was still talking to her,and decided that it would be best to avoid any chance of her and I crossing paths with each other? Was it that she was more important? I figured that her leaving,has to be the reason why he started to express that he was upset because I didn't write him as often. Which is something that he never did when he was in the county jail,and i stopped writing all the time,because I would get one or two a month in return.

Sorry for the long read....