toddler with chronic seperation anxiety please help?

gauging from other questions you've asked. . . I conclude that you aren't exactly the most patient mother on earth, and you seem to be rushing your child in or out of phases before she is ready.

1. every child is different. do NOT gauge your child's development with another child's. just because one child is ready for such and such phase at age 2, doesn't mean that any other child is. etc.

2. if this is in fact a sudden change in your child's behavior, then I would start asking questions and/or investigating. . . my guess is that something fairly traumatic has happened. possibly at the daycare. ask the daycare workers how your child behaves there, how she is getting on with others, is their another child bullying her, etc. also try your best to ask your child if anyone has been "touching" her or abusing her in some way.

3. be more considerate to your child. at age 2, her capability of communication is still very limited. her only source of communication is still non-verbal. if you are going to leave her, for whatever reason or for however long, reassure her that you love her, you will return, etc.

4. look into attending a parenting class. . . many places offer non-violent parenting, patient parenting, etc classes. you will be able to gain a lot of knowledge and support from other parents.

According to your previous questions two months ago you were "anxiously doing controlled crying..."

So after putting your child through that trauma were you expecting to have a confident child?You have some work to do now-offering comfort and love and generally being motherly to make up for what you did.

Since you use the term "chronic" I'm wondering if this has been going on for longer than you say since chronic is long term.

This is called the terrible 2's. Everything is exaggerated and over the top. Sometimes I just have to stand there and laugh at what's happening and honestly, me and the child are all the better for it. In most cases it cheers them up.

There is lots of information out there, but this is also very helpful.

http://talkingtotoddlers.com/

Take an hour or two every day to have Mommy and baby time. Read, play, and sing songs with her. Give her some one on one interaction. After a while, she should calm down.