How to block out a family members negative attitude?

Well instead of arguing back with her, just acknowledge that you're listening to what she's saying. Talking back is just what she's after (if she's someone who likes to argue) so you'll be happy knowing that there was no true arguing, and she will be unsure of what to say next (or just happy that you acknowledged her). Either one is much better than hearing her raise her voice and say rude things about you, am I right?

I have a girlfriend who was in a similar situation. She didn't take my advice and ended up getting kicked out of her house. I would rather not see someone else get into that predicament, so just try that and see where things go.

Hope this helps!

It can be very difficult to avoid getting pulled into a family member's drama. One suggestion that might lessen the conflict is to question yourself if you are trying to change your mother. When she complains can you let her express herself without trying to get her to see another point of view? Please take care and remember that you can call the Boys Town National Hotline 24 hours a day at the number below, free of charge. We are here to help, you are not alone!

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Your mum treats you that way because you are weak emotionally

Develop yourself and she will shoe you some respect

Only you can make yourself cry

Do not depend on anyone in this world for your happiness

Depend only on God

If you do not toughen up, even your children will take advantage of you

To be able to concentrate on developing yourself, you can follow these steps -

1- Develop yourself spiritually. Pray, fast and meditate on the word of God daily in your quiet time. Avoid communicating with people who radiate negative energy. Anytime you meet your mum, smile and tell her how much you love her. no matter how negative she is, be immuned to her hurtful words. Out of the millions of sperm cells that wanted to fertilize the egg, you were the fastest and strongest. You are a champion even before you were born. Not even your parents can take that from you. God created a wonderful destiny for you even before you were born. In short, you are a super human.

2- Do some of your favourite hobbies e.g. sports, gardening, music, painting, etc

3- Let God guide you into making new friends. Your friends will either help you up or tear you down.

4- TRY TO IMPROVE YOURSELF IN THESE SEVEN AREAS OF YOUR LIFE

S - Spiritually mature

I - Intellectually versatile

P - Physically strong

S - Socially up-to-date

A - Academically sound

F - Financially stable

E - Emotionally balanced

Focus on developing your inner strength by becoming a born-again Christian

Contact Joyce Meyer ministry, Mike Murdock ministry or Pastor Rick Warren for guidance

5- Prepare yourself to enter a relationship

DEFINE WHAT YOU WANT TO ACHIEVE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

a- Deeper relationship with God as a couple (regularly discuss with your pastor as a couple)

b- Better planning with your savings and expenditure as a couple

c- Learning more about respect, love, patience and forgiveness

PRAY AND FAST ABOUT THE TOP 5 THINGS YOU WANT IN YOUR PARTNER. e.g. -

a- honest/faithful (will not cheat on you)

b- Charming (makes your heart do the techno beat)

c- Disciplined (sexually, academically and financially)

d- Similar talents/ hobbies as you (so you won't get bored with each other)

e- Spiritually connected with God (kind, patient and forgiving)

6- Lastly, do some charity work. Helping those less fortunate around you reminds you how merciful God has been to you. Visit orphanages and old people's homes

It sounds to me like your mom is just bitter about life in general. You have two choices here - either TELL her that her negativity is getting to you and to just STOP it (she sounds like she needs to grow up) OR learn to just let it slip off your shoulders .... just think something positive in your head when she is going off about somethign and let it be.

You're a spoiled brat with tantrums. Mother should use a wooden spoon on you, that'll cure the nonsense.