Very stubborn toddler sitting in street?

When my nearly 3 year old refuses to walk when were out & nothing seems to work i give her the option of the easy way or the hard way - i explain what each entails & if she does not co operate then i follow through with what i have just told her. I always threaten carrying her over my shoulder like a fireman as this is the easiest position to hold her while throwing major tantrum & i get to go where i was aiming for ie shop. She hates this position as its not that comfy & i'm taking control & as soon as she is calm / willing to co operate we have a chat & i explain that her behaviour is not acceptable & re threaten her with easy way or hard way which always works for me as she then chooses the easy way & walks lovely. Its very rare the first time following through does not work but the second time always works & she's willing to do as i tell her then as she knows i do as i threaten.

If she's really in the street, then pick her up and carry her to the sidewalk or somewhere safe.

Then I suggest you sit down next to her, and say that she's clearly feeling quite upset. No criticism, no questions - just make your observation. If she says nothing, say that you understand she's feeling frustrated. Maybe a conversation will start. Yelling and walking away will just push her into being more stubborn - she needs to be treated with respect, to know that her opinions matter, and most of all that you will NEVER walk away and leave her.

Most three-year-olds are quite open to negotiation, and very flexible, so long as they know that their opinions are being listened to. If you listen to what your daughter has to say, she will almost certainly listen to your point of view - and if it's reasonable, she should be prepared to help you find a solution that will suit you both.

One of the good things about small children is that you can pick them up and physically move them when necessary. A "toddler sitting in street" might be a situation where you physically need to move her for her own safety.

And Kukana has pretty much given you a synopsis of every parenting/discipline book out there - communication is key. Show her that you are listening and acknowledging her feelings goes a long way to coming up with a mutually agreeable solution.

Show her you are more stubborn than her.

Pick her up, put her where she is suppose to be and talk to her. If she refuses to listen take her to her room for a short time out.

Remember you are the parent and she is the child.

If she is sitting in the street then you should move her before she gets hit by a car.