how can i get over selling my first horse?

My heart is so with you sweetheart. I am 52 now but when I was 16 I sold my first horse. I became obsessed with a 24 year old man and spent every second I could with him. (He was an alcoholic jerk but at the time I thought he was beautiful). I began spending less and less time with my Shiloh and realized it wasn't fair to her to keep her. I cried and cried the day I sold her. Sad thing, she was worth so much more than him and the memories of her I still treasure above almost any other memories I have. I don't cherish any memories of him though he still keeps in contact with my mother. These days he'd have gone to jail. I wish he had. Anyway, I didn't keep track of her or anything. I don't know why. I guess I just couldn't bare to even think about her let alone see her. My next door neighbor was good friends with the family that bought her so my mother kept track of her for a time. I learned a huge lesson and the few horses I've had to sell over the years I do keep track of for their sake mostly. I now have a 12 year old morgan mare and I will never sell her. If for some reason I am no longer able to keep her I will find her the finest home I possibly can and give her to them and I will also keep track of her so that nothing bad ever happens to her. Visit your horse. Stay in touch. In a sense that horse will always be a part of you and I believe you will be much happier knowing your horse is happy and healthy. God Bless you and good luck.

Stop being so hard on yourself.

You tried every other option first. You truly did the best that you could. What is holding you back from seeing that is that word you said. "Guilt".

You gave your horse a good life and did the best thing possible for her. You sold her to a good home that you were able to actually see and know in your heart is a good place for her.

You are starting a new chapter in your life. You will never forget her but time will allow you to get another horse when you are ready. No, it's not easy letting go but you have to or you won't be able to go forward.

It will get easier. When you go to the barn, remember you did the right thing for her and smile-don't cry-"I know where she went and she is in a good home." It sounds like it was a recent sell and the wounds are still fresh. It will get better and soon you will be talking to your barn friends about new horses when school is done and you move on in life.

I understand and have been there.

hmmmm.... I'm in college as well, but I have kept my horse. by the end of college I will owe my parents half of what it cost to keep him....

If I had lost him though, I would pick up a new hobby and probably leave the horse world. I would also get a dog, and pick up a sport with the dog like agility, carting, sledding, trick training, running, biking, ect.

From an emotional stand point, as long as I knew he went to a good home, and I checked up on him periodically, I think I would be okay after the first month. I would have made the buyers sign an agreement to notify me if they ever go to sell him, so that I could buy him back or ensure a good home for him. I would cry as he left, and I would be said if I ever say his empty stall, but if his stall had another horse in it I think I could deal with it better. Sounds like your barn was your family and friends though... which makes it harder for you. It's not like that at my barn, I mean there are plenty of good people and friends, but if I left the barn there are few friends that I would keep.

I consider my relationship with my horse just about equal to the one with my 4 year relationship with my BF, if not greater. After he passes I have little chance of getting another horse ever, or for quite a few years. I trust my horse with my life, we have so many adventures together, and try so many new things together.

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i only know 1 website which is called , "pets4sale" , you can type it in on google , and then type in/or click the part when it says something like , "what pet are you looking for" , click the dropzone , and then click horse . And all the horses from the U.K should come up after you've click search .

Do you have contact details of the owner? If so, why not go visit her or ask them to sent you pictures on how shes doing, i sold my pony not long ago and i was heart broken. But we kept in contact and they always sent me pictures and letters! It was very nice and eventually i got used to it and was fine! Good luck x

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