Will women want a relationship with me or date me?

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As simply as I can put it...

I don't know If I would really be given a real chance If women knew more about me.

This morning when I walked home from the gym I passed by maybe a dozen attractive women and was around a few more at my gym. Almost all of them show signs of interest. You can see from the picture... that I would say I'm a looker. 

However; I have problems/issues. I grew up in a very abusive home and this has impacted my life.

I never speak to anyone. I avoid eye contact because I can't help giving off an aggressive feeling when I look into their eyes...because my body feels in danger with people. I'm aggressive and fearful of people. I'm scared of this feeling in myself and I avoid any kind of contact. I'm indifferent in my mannerisms to approaches or potential approaches.

In elementary school, I was a choir boy. I was the best. I developed a propensity for expression through my voice more than any other type of sense but because of the high levels of anxiety it went into my voice, paralyzing my vocal chords and I was barely able to speak for a few years in my 20's (until I started heavy self-hypnosis). I'm 27 a.t.m.

Because of these problems I've never had a girlfriend and I passed every opportunity for one, unless, I could get to know them through them through a text message.

My life is very desolate. I don't have a normal good paying job or any trace of a social life. I've suffered from Major Depressive Disorder that paralyzes your life and for much of my life high levels of anxiety and worry that cause me consistent aggression and fear. 

I'm not a happy person. I've been reaching out with straws all my life.

Only in the last 5 months have I discovered real hardcore ways to change my thought process to begin to fix my life from the inside out.

On the flip side. Because of the way I was raised. I have a desire for perfection... and I don't want to change that. I have to be the best (for myself) at rock climbing, the strongest in the gym, the most intelligent, the best, etc. (I'm not a show off) and I fulfill and actively fulfill those dreams... when I and If I can. I'm a very masculine and deep individual. However I avoid people as much as I can except when I'm just "around" them.

Will women want a relationship with me or date me?

pearl · Accepted Answer

it depends on how you treat the woman. Women like men who treat them well. When you are in love, you may become more secure and confident. So give yourself a chance. But try to get some therapy or counselling to deal with your past and anxiety issues. Learn to relax. No one can change the past, so focus on the present and future.

sine · Answer

I notice that there quite a few asian ladies and white men relationship. Now not that it can be flawed or anything, just whatever I observe. I've certainly not heard of placing "advanced watching" white females on a pedastal, I suppose every race has its share of lovely and no longer so pretty ladies. However maybe, white men like minorities considering it satisfies this sort of fascination with exoticism? Possibly. Or it would be that they simply occur to like anybody who's a minority. I'm Latina, but i am most eager on white guys. They only seem so one of a kind than Latinos! :)

Ralph · Answer

That's a hard life, Bud. There is always going to be someone better than you. Yes, there are women who will want a relationship with you, but are you going to be able to accept them when there won't be anyone perfect?

Nikki · Answer

There is someone out there for everyone. Just be patient and if you keep trying to reach out, you will find someone who loves you for you. :-) Good Luck and God Bless.

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