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my older brother is lazy what can i do?

i am 24 and i have an older brother who is 26. i also have another older brother and an older sister. my mom was a single parent to 4 kids and always worked her butt off to provide for us, now my 26 year old brother is completely lazy! he has two kids and a wife but flat out refuses to work or go to school and every month i find myself paying for more than half of their rent< everybody tells me that i should stop helping him but if i stop helping im worried about my niece and nephew, its not their fault he wont get off his butt. he smokes weed all day and plays video games all night. i would do almost anything to get him into shape and on his feet! i joined the army at 17 and have worked for everything i have so it frustrates me to see him doing nothing with himself. we grew up seeing my mom with a strong work ethic so in turn i think i picked up on it. but somehow it skipped one of my brothers... lol it sounds crazy but hes a 26 yr old guy and doesn't want to work almost anywhere. i had a really good job lined up for him making 17 an hr and he wouldn't quit smoking weed for it!! he doesn't want to work i the heat or doesn't wan to work doing manual labor and when i asked him what he wanted to do with his life (no lie) he told me he wanted to be a race car driver....smh.... i told him to grow up. i want to be a pimp from oakland or an astronaut but its not halloween! im at a loss on what to do. i told him i would buy him a car or books or whatever he needed if he would go to school or get a job. and he wont. he has an excuse for everything. even with two kids and a wife he wont step up... and his wife lets him because she doesn't want to start a fight!! he said he wants to work at subway cause he can be in the AC and make himself food! please help with any advice!! for some reason it stresses me out... i try to figure out more ways to help him more than i do on my own problems... i guess i just want to see him happy and successful. my mom always tells me "you can lead a horse to water but you cant make him drink" and its so true lol i could put the world in front of him and he'll figure out a way to break up weed on it....

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  • 8 years ago
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    Your mom has given up on his 26 year old son. Your 26 year old brother's wife has even given up on him too. You tried and had given him options and he had refused. Its up to your brother. There is nothing you can do. Close one eye and half opened the other until your brother wants to help himself otherwise, you are just getting stressed out and worrying about him and guess what, you are basically causing annoyance in the family*

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