Does your ex daughter-n-law use your grandbaby against you ?

Take the messages to your sons lawyer for court. If he doesn't have a lawyer I'd say it's about time to get one.

Stay out of your son's relationship with his new girlfriend. You son needs to sue the ex for visitation. Maybe you can do that too. Sounds like there's a lot of dysfunction going on around there. What's wrong with your son who keeps having babies and never getting married? If he's not paying child support on the first one, he's no winner in the "father" department. I'm thinking he's not paying child support if he has no visitation rights. Perhaps, if you want to see your grandchild so badly, work out a deal with the ex to provide her with some cash every month and trade her that for visitation with your grandchild. I could not imagine not seeing my grandchildren. If my son was not supporting those children, I would kick his butt. And, if he wasn't, that child would have everything that child needed because Grandma would be seeing to it that her granddaughter was provided for. Maybe you can kill two birds with one stone. Tell her you want the baby one weekend out of the month and you will buy the child new clothes and shoes, and maybe some groceries. Either way, if my son wasn't doing his fair share, I would be doing it. Children deserve to be taken care of.

I would keep any emails that seem like bribes or threats and use them against her in court. A mother trying to say that her child's father isn't fit to have custody, yet says she screws up and wants to be with him forever, does not hold a strong case no matter how many lawyers she has.

I'd let her know that you don't get involved in your son's relationships. Tell her that you'd like to see your granddaughter again but that you cannot help her get back together with your son because it's none of your business. Do not discuss any of your son's personal life.