My Husband is a severe drug addict..should I leave him, I feel guilty?

What is it that compels American women to become camp-follower of every low-life, ex-convict, drug-addicted… whew. Sorry, compare this to an honest man, a good guy who gets his ears filled with feminist chants, hearing political hate against "evil" straight working men, or military heroes clutching "Dear-John-letters." But, women in this culture seem to embrace only the disgusting men, the degradingly bent men, it's like, like a parody of prewar "German cabaret Decadence," why? They don't love their past (how could they), and they don't look to the future (what future?) so they sink to the bottom with what's-his-name. What could I possibly write that could touch such an American woman's heart.

The reason you probably feel guilty is because you are still married even though legally separated and you have a boyfriend. Perhaps how you should have approached your problem in your marriage with an alcoholic husband was to stop enabling him when you first realized he was an alcoholic. Sometimes the very push that an alcoholic needs to hit their bottom is when the wife takes action against him with regard to the marriage. There are many good men out there who are recovering alcoholics and they still have their wife of 28 years by their side. Your statement that someimes you wonder if you should have stayed and continued to take care of him told me a lot. You don't try to take care of an alcoholic, you don't enable them and you take the steps necessary to get educated about how to really handle the situation. Hence, the suggestion would have been for you to attend some Al Anon meetings where you could have employed some tactics that would possibly have led him to seeking help much before this. Don't get me wrong here. You don't have to stay in a situation where the alcoholic doesn't do anything to change, but in a marriage as long as your marriage I would have tried some professional strategy to see if it couldn't have been a salvageable situation.

Most people will also do what you just did. On the other hand if you still feel any guilt from dumping him, there is still a hope inside you that your husband can recover from all his addiction. You can try to get him into a rehab once and for all. Treating him will not only make him a better person but also a better husband.

What you can do first is to seek professional advice from treatment centers on the best thing to do to try to get your husband into a rehab. It would be easier for you to convince him to go to rehab if you ask professional advice first before speaking directly to him.

Crosby Center is the one of the most advanced Drug Rehab Center I know where you can seek professional help or advice and they will help you get your husband the treatment he needs and it will only cost you a phone call. Crosby Center can help your husband overcome all his addictions because they target the root cause of any drug addiction to be able to treat it and achieve total recovery. Don't worry about the cost, Crosby accepts all major insurance so that treatment with them will only cost little or nothing.

When you were marrying him, did you say you're taking him in good times and bad, in sickness and health? Well, these are the bad times, and there's a lot of sickness. You promised to stay with him no matter what; be true to your word.

Having said that, you should not put yourself or your child in danger. If and when there's a good chance he could hurt you or your daughter, leave. If this goes on long enough, and there's no reasonable chance things could improve, you can file.

Don't do drugs with him just to keep him company. Stay clean. If you don't, how can you expect he will? And how and where do you think your daughter will end up?

His family are less important. You didn't marry them; you married him. If they judge you harshly without taking into account everything that matters, tell yourself they don't pay your rent.

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My Husband is a severe drug addict..should I leave him, I feel guilty?

I Love him..I really do...Weve been married for 2 years...feel like Im abandoning him..when he needs me the most..

hes currently on probation, and because he overdosed and I called the ambulance on him several times, hes currently on a pill count.

He gets prescribed, morphine, methadone,...

I think you should call him on his BS and tell him that he does not NEED all the medicine he's getting. He's most likely giving himself brain damage by taking things like morphine. His parents are enabling him by saying this is normal and not addictive behavior. I say talk to his doctor and if he doesn't cooperate then you may have to move him back with his parents. I do believe in for better or worse but you cannot watch someone kill themselves.

wow! You sound just like me! Or at least the me I used to be. I went through this with my husband for 15 yrs. I finally had to leave him and get clean for myself. We had a 2 yr. old when I left. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do.

--You can't get clean living around drug users.

-- You can't save him, he has to save himself.

--his family is going to side with him, of course. So what, you can't stay to please them. It's your life.

--I still love him, from a distance.

--I miss the guy I had married, not the addict he turned into. The guy I married doesn't exist anymore.

I suggest you go to the AA meetings by yourself. Go to rehab for yourself. Get the support you need in your area. These are the places that helped me.

Oh, and by the way, I'm 12 yrs. clean and sober, have a happy and stable home for me and my son, a great job, I own my own home, 2 cars, and I love my life. All this from a gal the "experts" called a hopeless case with a 2% chance of success.

Be strong sister!!

To God be the glory!!!!!

Realize that it's YOU that have a problem and you NEED him out of your life to fix it. You are NOT his mother, he is NOT a little child. He's a man and he chooses what he wants and what he doesn't want. KNOW that what his family wants is for YOU to be responsible for him, because they won't. They are his blood, and they WILL step in when they realize that you're not the jerk they are trying to make you into. Your responsibility is FIRST to your daughter, and second to YOU. You must protect your mental and physical health in order to keep your daughter safe and secure. You're a mature, intelligent and responsible MOTHER. So love your daughter and leave him or you're going to be writing about how you love and miss HER.

If he is not willing to get help for his addiction and continue in it, then it has to be that you will have to show him tough love by leaving till he does? That is great that you love him so much and he is a very fortunate person to have someone like you, but, he needs to see that for himself and straighten out for the sake of the marriage!

Sweetheart you gotta dump him.... The reason being that it is allways adviseable to separate yourself from anyone who does drugs as if you stay with this person you will,just keep doing it

Unfortunately for you the sad stark truth is you have to part it is for the best and you know it deep down its just you are finding it difficlut to do

If you do not part it will not only screw up yours and his life but your daughters too

Do the right thing. Xxx