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m@noj asked in HealthMental Health · 8 years ago

I am gonna commit suicide soon... iam done with my life.. plz help..?

i am 21/m... its been 2 years that everything

is falling apart... i am facing back to back

failures... i don't know what to do... i have

tried everything but in vain...i always use to

be strong and cheerful and even now i always

keep a smile on my face so that no one

would see me sad but deep down i am dying

a bit every single day... i am in deep

depression and soon i think i will commit

suicide.. i really love my dad and my family

and i don't want to do this but i have lost all

the motivation and dreams... plzz guys help

me out...

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  • 8 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    GOD is too faithful to fail. Things may not happen your way.

    But remember...GOD doesn’t take coffee breaks!

    And no matter how many mistakes you make.Or how slow you progress,You’re still way ahead of everyone. Who isn’t trying. Also,Failures are not any options and it's not done in vain because you don't the outcome of what you planned.

    Quit the suicidal thoughts and you love your family so much and I'm sure they feels the same way, so talk to them on how you feel.

  • 8 years ago

    it's very important to find a therapist/psychologist that you feel comfortable with and see if that makes a difference. why suffer? go get an assessment and some talk therapy. 'masking';putting a smile on your face,is a sign of serious depression.a lot of people get through depression with no medication.that's your choice.

    - searching for help and being strong enough to go for therapy is not weakness! it is strength and wisdom. we all need help sometime in life. reach out for some support. it's a very intelligent thing to do. no one has to know you are going for therapy. it's confidential,you can vent your frustration and anger all over the therapist.the first step is the hardest,but the therapist will put you at ease.

    - you are in charge and you only have to talk about what you want to.you'll get your self-confidence and motivation back and you'll be able to use these 'failures' as a learning experience to move forward in life. don't keep looking back.you have a lot of time to have some success.

    - many people make life changes,or even more to another city for better employment, in their 30's and 40's because they are not as successful as they want. you have not tried everything in vain. let someone help you find other options! you are still so young and you WILL get past these problems--

    . 'interview' a couple licensed therapist and pick the one you like.if you have no insurance there are therapists that offer 'sliding scale'- some counties have free counseling,sell something if you have to.talk to the people you love and ask for temporary financial support.you can stretch out your appointments and do your 'homework' in between sessions.

    - please call 1-800-273-talk(8255) 24/7,anytime you want to call. it's free and it helps. they won't come out to your house when you talk about your feelings of suicide.they won't be shocked. it's confidential.you can turn off your caller ID. people call for loneliness,depression,feeling suicidal,looking for resources in the area and asking how to help friends and family. just try it a couple times and see if it helps. good luck

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    Please don't kill yourself. You have FOREVER to be dead. Do you understand how long that is? Think about it, I mean really think. Forever and ever and ever. Eternity. That's how long you have to be dead. You might think life sucks right now, but what can suck more than death? Nothing. There's always a light at the end of the tunnel. And when you feel like you're all alone, you're not. How do you know that the day after you killed yourself, you would meet the love of your life, and everything would change. Life is so beautiful, but only if you choose to look at it in the way. You are so blessed to be alive. Depression can be cured, maybe you should tell a member of your family and seek professional help. Being happy is a choice. And don't forget, you have forever to be dead. Why take away the fraction of time you have to be alive? "And lo, I am with you always, even to the end of an age." Matthew 28:20 I'm not a Christian but I found A LOT of comfort in this, and it's got me through a lot. I hope it can get you through this :)

  • 8 years ago

    Dear Manoj,

    Though I do not know you, it seems like I've been in your shoes on more than one occasion.

    You are just 21 and life is really beginning for you, I'm double your age, have a wife and 3 growing children. Yet through all these years of marriage, 17 - I have not been as successful as everyone else around me.....my friends, family, classmates, acquaintances......and it was my decision to go into teaching....a noble profession......to teach and help children become better ......than what their parents were before......to give them freedom of speech and the ability to think and problem solve.......yet time and again, my family has been down in the dumps as teachers don't get paid a lot, and even a Masters cannot help at times......

    I've thought about ending my life a few times too, but that was a long time ago, when I had a defeatist attitude, I realised and changed my attitude and outlook on life after realising that WE ARE ALL HERE FOR A REASON, what that reason is exactly, we need to discover it for ourselves. So if we end our brief life on earth earlier than we were supposed to, then that reason will never be discovered........

    I know that you are feeling at your lowest now, I have been there too, but it is the same, but not the same if you know what I mean....see we all go through similar events and feelings, but these are not similar as we see each through different eyes, based on our past experiences, upbringing, education, love, and many more factors. I believe that once we have reached rock bottom, as you seem to be, there is no other way but UP.........so please, have faith in yourself, to overcome this feeling and attitude and trust and know that you will come out of it better.

    I believe that GOD gives us only what he knows we can handle, and if we can't then he always sends a helping hand by way of someone or something.

    Manoj.....you are one of a kind, you are special, you are loved, you are a blessing to your parents and family, you are a child of God, you have been formed in his likeness and as such, you possess the strength and ability to overcome your current situation.

    Have faith and Believe and it will be!

    Om....Shanti.....Shanti....Shanti......Peace!!!

    Dan

    Source(s): The Book of Life......
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  • You are not an isolated case. Every one born into .world begins the process of dying that very moment. We are dying every minute and are taking a new birth every day. this is the law of evolution. When we grow a large number of our body cells die every day, and new ones appear.

    we should not get stuck with whatever is causing us helplessness and desuetude. We then become a stagnant and stinking pond. We must identify interests and talents hidden. Identify them and try to concentrate on developing them. That provides necessary diversion from depression. You will begin to see the world in a different light and perspective. Try to espouse a public cause or a social service which makes you a much wanted person at least to a section of people You can rediscover the significance of your birth and existence.

    Till such time take 2 mg of diazepam before going to bed. every day. Do not use alcohol. I trust you can overcome your present depression and soon find yourself an important messiah.

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    "True tears are better than fake smiles".

    I had a nervous breakdown when I was 21. I'm now 28. I've lost my job, crashed my car, and have been thrown into the psychiatric ward 6 times. I've been to 2 funerals, found out my best friend now has AIDS from sharing needles filled with Heroin. My brother is hooked on Methadone, and my cousin is now in prison getting bashed every day. I don't talk to my Mother, who only has negative things to say about me. I have osteoarthritis, diabetes, and have no sexual function whatsoever. I have chronic, severe, mental illness, bone disease, medicated with 30 pills a day, and get out of breath going outside to get the mail. My liver is dying, as well as my kidneys, and I have heart disease. I am starting to lose my teeth, I've never had a girlfriend, and I will be lucky to celebrate my 30th birthday without being in a wheelchair. I have not answered your question. Maybe you feel a little better about your life now, perhaps?

    Source(s): Just waiting to die.
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    8 years ago

    Hon, nothing is worth ending your life over. We go through hard times, it's just the way life works, so we have to learn to handle things when life does get tough. The awesome thing (especially in this case) is that nothing lasts forever, so if we decide to end our lives early, we might miss out on SO many wonderful things.

    Not only that, but there's nothing worse than losing a loved one to suicide. I personally haven't experienced it, but one my mom's friend's husband committed suicide last summer and she is still grieving. She will always grieve. Don't kill yourself because you might as well be killing your family as well and you don't want to do that.

    My advice to you would be to first, calm down, and seek professional help from a counselor to help you get back on your feet. Sometimes just spilling your guts to someone is the best therapy.

    Chin up. You're stronger than you think you are. :)

    I'll be praying for you, okay?

  • 8 years ago

    If u dont have the choice to fly then run if not walk if not crawl if not stop but dont turn or go back there comes a day everything will be alright.we are not here to acheive only success or earn money but we are to make others happy which ur doing now so wash out the ideas of commiting suicide

  • Remember there is no ooopss button on this, when you are gone, you are gone...think of the pain you are going to leave your loved ones...my ex husband committed suicide, my daughter has been on anti depressants since the day he did this...after he committed suicide, everyone's world fell apart...you had better give this a lot of thought, you may be in a down mood, sometimes one doesn't see light at the end of a tunnel...I know, but there is good out there, you need to find it...

  • 8 years ago

    There is no morality. There is only a human shell of emotion that makes you think so. Unfortunately, we are bound to such a shell and so are others we care about.

    If you have no desire to live, I suggest you hold on for the sake of others who would be devastated by your absence. To do anything else would be week and selfish.

    Besides, you will eventually die anyways, you might as well ride it out and just try to make it work. I suggest eating healthier, exercising, and reading philosophy. This will help.

    Source(s): I have been diagnosed with depression. I don't medicate.
  • 8 years ago

    what you need now is rest, not death. Drink pills for sleeping more, make prayers, listen music and relax.

    The problem with suicide is that there is possibility that you try to kill yourself but if you fail to do that you may be in worse situation. Suppose that you jump from the top of the building and you remain live? What then? You will suffer much pain because many bones in your body will be broken and some internal organs will be damaged. Or suppose that you cut your arm and you lose much blood but somebody saves you. then for the rest of your life you will have scar on your arm, like one of my friends has.

    The problem with life is that sometimes we are forced to live rather than given life. It is not just your problem - we all are trapped in our human bodies and we have to bear various problems. We cannot escape from our skin. That is our destiny - to suffer and slowly to get older and die. For our luck, there are many pleasures that we can enjoy to make our lives worth living.

    You can chat with me on Skype if that may help you.

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