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Is it just me or is this guy being clingy? Guys opinions too please :)?
I've been talking to this guy for a couple weeks now and he knows I want to be just friends because I am just not ready to date yet and he understood where I was coming from. I've noticed he always asks me what I'm doing everyday and I am usually doing something with my family or I have other plans, such as running errands or whatever. We've hung out twice already and every time he asks what I am doing, I feel pressured to hanging out with him. I am starting to get annoyed. On Thursday he asked if I wanted to go to his nieces play and I couldn't because I was going to my uncles house and plus, I don't feel comfortable meeting his whole family when we are just friends. Then on Friday he wanted to hang out and I felt sick. I told him if I felt better on Saturday we should go to the movies, well, on Saturday I was still feeling sick and my sister came over, I ran errands with her and did some other things, my cousins also came over. When I told him what I did he was like 'Oh sounds like you had a busy day today..' he also was saying how he has to make other plans since I couldn't go to the movies. It made me feel bad but then again I can't control my life. Is he being clingy or is it just me?
*Also, I told him that I don't tell me parents if I have a boyfriend because my parents are kind of strict and he got kind of mad.. but I'm like I'm not even dating you? He's worried we will never hangout and I told him we will you just have to understand my family. (I'm very close to my family). I'm visiting my sister today out in L.A and I might have to bail again for the movies.
*Guys opinion, would you be mad at me if you were him? Also, would you mind if the girl didn't tell her parents about the relationship?
I am really nice to him and I'm nice to everyone I think sometimes it comes off as flirting? He's so nice but he just comes on a little too strong. He knows my family comes first but it seems like he doesn't want to accept it..
I also told him I don't hang out with friends much because I am always doing something with family or I have things to do on my own. I am really independent I don't like clingy at all :/ Over Summer I'm gonna be with my sisters. He asked me yesterday if I was dodging him & he said he likes hanging out with me I told him that I'm not dodging him and I enjoy hanging out with him too. But as friends.
8 Answers
- IdentityLv 58 years agoFavorite Answer
He is a very clingy and he's a loser because you're rude to him and he still likes you
He doesn't understand strict parents that's why he's mad. As a person who grew up with strict parents, I understand that part.
- ?Lv 78 years ago
No looks like you pretty much told him up front and he just isn't listening. Sounds like he's getting obsessive I'm visiting my sister today out in L.A and I might have to bail again for the movies. If your not comfortable with this guy keep coming up with things to do sooner or later he should get the message.
We've hung out twice already and every time he asks what I am doing, I feel pressured to hanging out with him. I am starting to get annoyed. Maybe you should just come out and tell him your not ready for a relationship. How about a white lie I'm gay.
- ?Lv 78 years ago
So I'm a little confused here. This is my opinion form what I have gathered.
He either wants to be friend or doesn't realize you don't like him in a way he thinks you do. You should be open with him about how you feel. Better to be straight with it upfront that let this drag on and have people's feelings hurt and all that emotional bullshit.
Now I don't have any kids but if I did I would be pissed that my child was hiding something from me, especially if they are doing it because they knew I wouldn't approve. Its like saying "yeah I know I'm doing something wrong and **** you!". Any time someone hides a screw-up from me at work I get extra pissed, when I'm usually a pretty easy going guy.
- 8 years ago
Be honest with him, tell him that you need to be a bit independent and that you like being able to do things without worrying that your friend will be upset if you don't hang out with him or that you don't reply whenever he asks how you're doing. He seems like a really nice guy, treat him well but make sure he knows that you guys are just friends. Explain how you're quite busy all the time, if he is a good friend, then he will get it. Chances are, he has a crush on you, that's why he asks about you all the time, he will get over it eventually.
I think that he doesn't know that his behavior is clingy to you, but if it bothers you, tell him (politely).
Good luck :)
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- 5 years ago
Well, us guys like ladies who flirt with us. Spending plenty of time with this guy might get him to like you. He might ultimately ask you out. Believe me. I had a girlfriend who used to be too "clingy",and she or he was once traumatic. She did too much stuff. You are not like her when you handiest try this stuff. If it would not look like he minds, he both does not like you in that method, or he rather likes you and is just too frightened to ask you out. If it is the latter, ask him out. In other phrases, you are now not too clingy.
- Anonymous8 years ago
Are you interested in him or not? If you are, you should try to clear some time for him, because if you always bail, it will send him a message that you don't want to be friends with him (or date him).
- ?Lv 68 years ago
IT sounds like he's already defined you as his girlfriend in his mind... whether you want it or not. I'd break off contact with him. He doesn't sound like he's terribly respectful of your needs.
