Family always bugging me for something?

Alright so growing up I rarely saw my family due to a controlling father. They were in and out of my life and with my whole family if I don't live by them they pretty much never call, email, visit, nothing not even for my birthday. Now that I live closer they came to a birthday party thrown by my mom for me but it seems like they always want something for me!

I am a homebody. I like being at home ALONE! I walk around my house half naked and relax during my time off rather than going out with friends partying. Apparantly since I'm not "doing anything" I'm supposed to do whatever they want. Whether its babysitting, attending events, driving people somewhere, going where they want me to etc.

Prime example is my husband is airforce and I was at his graduation. My aunt had the nerve to call while I was spending time with him after not seeing him for 8 weeks for a favor. Not only that as soon as I answer I tell her I'm with him to say I'm not talking right now and she continues talking. I haven't seen my husband in 8 weeks, whatever your issue is its not the appropriate time. The "issue" was taking her daughter to the hospital for my grandmas back surgery... umm what? Is that a social event?

Since my grandmas back surgery I text her everyday to see how she is doing and see if she needs anything. However I don't have to do this!

Honestly I just really find my family annoying. If they planned things in advance or came over invited it would be different, but instead they try to boss me around or show up last minute then bang on my door, GO AWAY! I know it might seem bad but this is how I feel. I don't ask my family for things often or at all. My husband and I pay our own bills and live in a house we rent. We don't owe them anything and it just bugs me!

Anyone have advice or other family stories? Oh I also feel the need to add that I eloped because of my family, I couldn't have the wedding I wanted without hearing it and guilt trips from them so I opted not to have one at all!