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Casey
Lv 6
Casey asked in Pregnancy & ParentingParenting · 8 years ago

Help with meeting boyfriend's kids?

I am 24. My boyfriend is 30, and we've been dating for awhile. He's now ok with introducing me to his two daughters. I like kids, but all of my experience with kids has been with babies and toddlers. His daughters are 5 & 7. I'm a big nervous of what to expect. I don't want to baby them, but also don't want to treat them as though they're older than they are. What do they like to do? What should I avoid? XD I never thought I'd be here on Y!A asking a question like this, but I just wanna make a nice first impression! Thanks!

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  • Anonymous
    8 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    Before you meet them, watch the movie "The Holiday" with Cameron Diaz, Jude Law, Jack Black and Kate Winslet. Ask open ended questions, listen and try to sit when they are standing or get down on the floor with them. Play with them if given the chance, but don't force it. Use their names when you speak to them. Overall just be yourself and open your heart. You've earned this invitation or their dad (who always has a special relationship with their daughters) wouldn't be letting you in. Do NOT get jealous or see them as an extension of their mother. It's not like that. There's enough of him to go around...always.

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    Starters kids that age can be annoying , they at whatever comes to mind , they could be mean or nice .. You never know .

    But think back to when you were little . Maybe when you go meet them bring them something .. Candy or something they would like

  • ?
    Lv 4
    8 years ago

    Haha um, Okay. Well i say when you go dress appropriate i guess and keep your language clean ;p That's simple right? Well kids like these days ... They like cool people. :3 Like they don't like people that are mean and they don't listen and their just like in a really mean popular girl voice- Wait also if you have a popular mean girl voice i say try making it sound friendly and like a cute fun voice not like a megan fox/kim kardashian popular voice like ''Ahah oh pleeeasse dahling'' make it sort of fun and like selena gomez . Don't take stuff seriously don't be grossed out a lot. I say just go and say hi and be sort of like ''Your so pretty oh my gosh'' And complement them i guess. Oh god this is pretty hard. Be really funny and make up some super funny jokes. Try treating them like princesses i guess :D Act like you are galfriends and act fun and be happy. Don't go over and hug them and give a huge fat smooch ahah. If they turn out liking you at the end hug them :/

    Always have some candy in your bag/purse in case. Maybe sometimes when its awkward and quiet i mean or maybe your just silent and everybody is quiet and its awkward just pull out candy and eat one then say ''Here. Choose one :)'' With a very huge smile on your face and have some yummy kinds not dumb gross sticky candy ahah. Kids LOOVEEE candy so always have candy in your bag. Ask them about themselves like how many friends they have and say stuff like what do you like? And stuff sort of like interview them in a super friendly nice way. Hand out the most candy you can possibly hand out haha and yeah.

    I guess try to act like that. And if your boyfriend is the horny type i guess i mean like if he tries to put his hand over you or sort of snatch your butt in a way uh no. Because mostly some boyfriends are like that. Just stay a bit far from him in a way i mean sit next to him but i wouldn't say i'd let him put his hand over you because kids think in a way.. If you know what i mean. Care a lot mostly if they talk about their friends listen closely don't change subjects and be like ''What a nice name your friend has.'' Stuff like that and look really like its a big deal and stuff.

    :) Hope i helped.

  • 5204
    Lv 6
    8 years ago

    Talk to them as like you would talk to anyone else. Don't ask personal question, don't patronize them. Don't over flatter them.

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