How often should a girl initiate conversation first without seeming needy or clingy?

Roses, I'm going to tell you something really important. I'm a guy, so I know how we think.

You have literally noooooooo idea what it would take for you to seem needy or clingy! Seriously, we love it when you do the initiating. It takes the pressure off us, which means we don't have to risk looking like a serial rapist. Seriously, we don't mind if you make the first move. I've been married just over 14 years now, and my wife still has to make the first move if she wants to put the F in holy matrimony.

Clingy isn't when you make the first move. Clingy is when we keep saying we really have to leave, and you're nailing our foot to the floor. Clingy is when we say we need to catch this last bus out of town, and you buy a last-minute ticket to sit beside us. Clingy is when we say we need to go home and get some sleep, and then we find you camped out on the front porch the next morning. If what you do is anything less than that, you're not being clingy.

Man, I should get some credit for reading that. Man you are in a very tough position. Before I could give my advise, as a logical human being, i would like to point out that it didn't take her long to get over you and sleep with the next guy. I am not going to judge and let you make the decision. If you forgave her and want her back, than do just that. talk to her and let her know you want her back. pretty much spill your guts and see how she reacts. if the guy truly is FWB and nothing more and she still loves you, she will be back. if she hesitates or does not, than you already know the deal. The decision is not really hard because you already made it, i guessing you just want some support. when it comes to love, things are very weird and does not follow normal logic, so contact her, let her know how you feel and see what you get out of it. Good Luck, I hope you get what you want.

You can start it off, he might not know that you like him and might just think you want some one to talk to. If you really like him just ask him out, i know it sounds risky but i have never turned down a girl who asked me out. It's something sexy about a girl who goes for what she wants. (tastefully of course, don't want to seem desperate). As long as you don't come out and say something like "i really like you" or pass him a love note, you should be good