How do I spice up my already spicy sex life at the request of hubby?

geetarmen56's suggestion is a good one but you should spend some of that effort thinking about what would spice things up, make things more adventurous, and pleasurable for yourself even (just sometimes) to the exclusion of his pleasure. My guess is that he, like myself, find joy in seeing the joy and pleasure of my partner.

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However, at that point where one partner is at the brink of abandoning the relationship, how can the remaining partner save their marriage? If you are at the point where your spouse has asked for a divorce, what can you do?

You must realize first that, you do have a choice. Often, when confronted by a crisis, we find ourselves backed into a corner thinking we have no choice in the matter. How can we change the situation when it involves another person's feelings or decisions? While we cannot, must not and in no way manipulate, blackmail or threaten our partner into changing their mind, we can actually control how we react to the situation. If anything, you must realize that you still have control over yourself. You have the opportunity to look inward and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions and even have the chance to take personal inventory of what your partner is trying to tell you. Are there points in your marriage that must be changed? If so, respond appropriately and proactively.

Best source is the Kama Sutra, a book that shows many sexual positions. You can probably find a copy at the library or at a book store. They even have a video aobut it. Other than that, you can play act like you're a school girl, Little bo Peep, famous charachters, even dress up for some of them. You can pretend you're a hooker and he's a John picking you up.

Hi Hailee,

Congratulation on the baby and on having a healthy sexual life after the birth. As other have mentioned you can look up the Kama Sutra or Tantric Sex, but let me suggest exploring the world of anal which you do not mention in your question, but not just penetrating you and that's it. Make it a whole ritual where you and him prepare for anal and not only for your but for him as well. Anal stimulation works in any anus, not just the female anus. Start by giving each other enemas. Make sure you use plenty of lubrication. An excellent lubricant is Country Comfort Herbal Savvy Golden Seal-Myrrh. If this is the first time your are going to do anal seriously, it will be lots of fun to go through the whole process together. A fantasy of my is to apply an enema to my partner and as she discharges I deep throat her. Make it fun. Here are some tips on what do. When you have anal, you want your rectal cavity and sphincter to be nice and clean. That way your guy can not only penetrate you, but give you some delicious anilingus which is how he should start to relax you and get you ready for penile penetration. Make sure that he sticks his tongue down your rectum to get you ready. Of course, your should also give him some delicious anilingus. When you apply the enema use a lot of lubricant. Ease the dispenser in at the same time that you slightly push out. Pushing out with your anus makes the anus open up. It sound counterproductive since you want something to come in, but you should keep in mind that you want to open up the cavity not to close it. So, if you tighten up while inserting the enema dispenser your feel pain and it will difficult because your are closing it, so push to open it. If you are having a bit of a problem inserting it, swirl the tip gently and push until is all the way in. Take the opportunity to anally masturbate a bit with the dispenser. Swirl it, push in and pull out. It is recommended that you anally masturbate with your finger first so that you are familiar how it is going to feel with the dispenser which is rigid and not flexible like your finger. Spread lubricant on your anus and then on your finger (make sure you cut your nails), place your hand against your body (the palm of your had should be touching your body) and gently press on the anus as if your pressing a door bell button, but with the intention of sinking it in. Once again, remember to push out a little bit to make it easier for your finger to penetrate. Bending over also opens up the anal canal. Once the finger is in, just relax your sphincter and enjoy the erotic feeling. Play with you anus by bringing you finger in and out and twisting it. Also squeeze your finger out with your anus and push it in again. The anus is delicate so treat it with care and make sure that the whole process is enjoyable (enema, fingering, and penetration). If it is not, two things could be happening. You could be tightening your muscles or you don't have enough lubrication. When he is pounding on your dragon's lair, insert your finger in his anus and his pleasure will multiply tenfold. You may also want to buy some toys for the occasion. If you penetrate him with your tongue while you masturbate him, it is going to absolutely drive him crazy. If reading this is making you wet, it is probably a good idea. Isn't it?

I hope this helps.

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