Therapist says I was molested?

There are A LOT of things you are not saying here, and for very good reasons.

Here's a question...

Do you trust your therapist? Do you have a kind of trust in your therapist that leads you to tell what you know truthfully and honestly? If so, continue what you are doing.

I have a feeling, the question "where do we go from here" really isn't a question the way you are interpreting it. She likely meant.... so based on what we know so far, shall we continue your therapy session? What more can you tell me? What more do you feel comfortable sharing?

You said you can't even say aloud what you know. So there's a lot more you need to discuss with your therapist. No, you don't trust what she say as a undeniable truth. Only YOU know that. As you said, she isn't 100% certain. The way therapy works, you say something, she says something, you say something... and eventually, you say "AHA!" and then YOU know.

Something like this will take LONG time. So don't give up. It'[s quite natural you feel angry, lost, confused, and continue to question yourself. That's very normal.

I actually know some of this from personal experience.

You will likely get a lot of answers here online. Please PLEASE be very aware, all of these, including mine, are just opinion from people who don't even know you. We don't know who you are, or your experiences. We don't know your therapist either. So take them as they are - just guesses.

OK?

Therapists have a vested interest in finding these things. If you don't have memories of it, then don't let her plant them in your mind. Recent research shows false memories are easily planted by therapists and are quite dangerous for you and your family.

It's all about the dynamic, if it's helping you get better, it's good, if it just makes you focus on problems, it's not so good.

You already know you have problems, focus on finding solutions.