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Guys! Where are the kind, but confident, just the right balance of maturity and fun ones?
So, I'm a confident, fairly nice girl, and yes, I am adorable.
But why can't I find one guy alive with the same qualities? Looks are not the most important thing in the world, but It's like this; all the really attractive, to me, guys tend to be shallow. All the sweet, nice, guys are super needy and not at all confident, or all that attractive, (lack of confidence doesn't help attractiveness) I'm just looking for a charismatic, but romantic, sweet, but not codependant, attractive at least to me, kind of guy.
I'm actually fairly comfortable on my own/being independent but I'm also secretly a romantic and eventually would like to find the right guy.
But all the ones around me, it seems, are either desperate and needy or cold and shallow. No one's perfect but...
Is there any hope of finding that ideal balance in a guy?
3 Answers
- LGLv 78 years agoFavorite Answer
IDK, no guy is going to just have this glow around his head when you meet him, or a flashing sign that reads "my guy". They're all just human guys. Instead of looking for fireworks, look for a spark. And then grow that spark into a fire. IMO, a good relationship is as much of what you make of it as it is about finding the right person. A person becomes your soulmate after you've spent years growing together. They don't acheive that status when you just meet them.
Find somebody you enjoy being with, keeping one eye on the future. And then see where it goes.
Also, make sure you're meeting lots of guys in different places. Maybe there's 5 or 10 guys in your immediate circle of friends and none of them seem to fit. In that case, expand your horizons and meet more. One of two things will happen. Either you'll find that match you were looking for, or you'll start to realize that what you're looking for isn't out there, and you need to relax your filters a bit. Maybe that guy doesn't seem like so much on the surface. But maybe there's more underneath that you were missing. Once again, don't go with somebody you have no attraction for whatsoever. But look for a spark instead of fireworks.
- 8 years ago
Well there are so many humans in the world I guess you'll just have to keep on looking. Most likely though...your not going to find your ideal. The ideal never exists...everyone comes with some baggage. You may one day find that guy you think that you want...and then he'll do something you wouldn't expect him to do because there is no human being who has the exact same qualities as another. He'll probably have the qualities you like but you don't have the qualities he likes because he wants someone that will depend on him.
- Anonymous8 years ago
Yes I am adorable = entitled = bad attitude
If you're only putting yourself on display for dominant, Alpha males, don't expect them to treat you well after they screw you. Men like that have huge egos. Nice guys will hate you too for dating guys, who kick sand in their faces and beat the Hell out of them.
