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Is it a sin to not get married?

I've had a few reasons to not get married. The first one, and the reason why I chose not to do so as a child, is because the wife nags at you. I actually do not find that such a big deal by now. My second reason is more important. It is because I'm afraid that my wife will file a divorce without my permission, when marriage is meant to last forever. The first reason is actually still prevalent, very much so, but I've heard that not getting married is bad if it it because of selfishness. So, is it a sin or not in my case?

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  • Gary B
    Lv 7
    8 years ago
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    NO. While we are ALL made to be with someone,. someone whose needs and abilities complements our own needs and abilities, there is no shame in NOT wanting to marry.

    But YOUR reasons for not doing so are immature, bordering on mental health issues.

    "because the wife nags at you."

    Wives nag, Bosses nag. Politicians nag. The old lady heind you in the line at Walmart nags.

    EVERYONE nags IF YOU ARE NOT DOING YOUR JOB! Getting married is NOT about how happy YOU are, it is about how happy YOU MAKE SOMEONE ELSE. And if you are NOT doing that job, then you ARE going to get nagged. "Pick up your clothes". "Stop playing video games". "Take a shower". "You fix dinner". " Get a real job!". Those are typical nags, but they are things that YOU SHOULD HAVE BEEN DOING WITHOUT BEING TOLD.

    If your wife nags, it is because YOU are a poor husband!!! Change you ways of thinking, change how you talk, change how you act, and the nagging stops.

    "I'm afraid that my wife will file a divorce without my permission"

    Wives file for divorce. Bosses call you into the office and fire you. You car stops working without any warning.

    ALL of these things can last virtually forever, BUT YOU HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF THEM. If you don't change the oil in your car, it is gong to freeze up on you someday. if you don't do your very best at work everyday, you boss is going to fire you. And if you don't show love and respect for your wife every day, she may well decide to file for divorce.

    MARRIAGE TAKES WORK. You CAN'T just get married, and expect everything to be done for you. YOU have to put forth effort, and the more effort YOU put forth, the more rewards you get.

    But these fears of your border on being irrational, even anti-social. Literally MILLIONS of people get married EVERY DAY, and a most of them STAY married for the rest of their lives. And those that don't stay married -- in EVERY case, their divorce can be broken down to the simple fact of THEY WERE NOT WORKING AT BEING MARRIED.

    Of course, BOTH of you have to work at it, so if you marry a woman who doesn't work at her marriage, then you ar STILL going to get nagged and divorced. But that is what DATING is for. Not just for a couple of months, but for a LONG TIME -- maybe 1 - 2 YEARS. Dating is for learning what the other person is about, and if you do that the other person WILL show you what they are REALLY made of at some time. The reason many marriages fail today is because they DON'T DATE. They go out once, jump into bed, and if that feels good (which it almost always does) they get married. People today think that LOVE and SEX are the same thing. THEY ARE NOT.

    But what YOU need is some mental health counseling. Seems to me that you have seen and heard some things as a child that have had a profoundly NEGATIVE effect on your life. Without these being fixed, your marriage CAN NOT last -- even if you want it to.

    GET PSYCHOLOGICAL THERAPY NOW, and after a year or two of HARD work, you should be mentally healthy enough and emotionally strong enough to actually find a True Love partner that will wok on the marriage just as hard as you are going to.

  • 8 years ago

    Its not a sin if you don't want to get married. But it could be your sin/karma that you don't have any destiny/fate to have a soul mate to get into matrimony. There are millions upon millions of men and women in the world, yet you are fated to meet that special someone only. Sometimes, you waited for years to meet that someone and ended in divorce and waited for more years to turn around to find happiness with another person. Some get abused, miserable and hated living with that someone, but some live together to a long good age and still loving each other. Your reasons for not getting married like the fear of nagging, divorce is just frivolous and shallow. When the times come because of your sin/karma to be nagged, bullied and abused or otherwise loved and adored by that someone, you will forget your fear and fallen in love too quickly to get afraid *

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    No it isn't because we are all sinners. If you're talking about a religious person marrying an unreligious person I don't believe that is a sin either. I know the bible says not to be unequally yoked, but it was not a commandment, it was a statement because God knew the difficulties it could cause in the relationship.

  • 8 years ago

    Well its a sin to live together before marriage or to have premarital sex.

    Don't be so afraid. I'm divorced, I'm catholic.

    The thing is you are supposed to get married and accept all of it. You're worried about a wife nagging? That is the tiniest of issues you'd get.

    Marriage isn't all that scary just mean your vows

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  • 8 years ago

    It's not a sin not to get married.

    Anyways, it takes 2 people to file for divorce. Without your signature on the papers, nothing happens. Forging your name would be a bad thing.

    And if you find the right woman, she's not going to be nagging you.

  • 8 years ago

    The Apostle Paul said that if you can do without sex, it is wonderful to not marry. If however you cannot go without sex, you should marry so that you can have sex without it being a sin. The Apostles as far as I recall, were not married. So of course it is not a sin to not marry. It is a sin to have sex with anyone who you are not married to and it is a sin to divorce them if they have not cheated on you. Go look it up. The best way to find answers and what is right and wrong is to go the the source, the Bible.

  • ?
    Lv 5
    8 years ago

    As far as the bible, it is a sin to have sex outside of marriage, so, if you love sex get married not saying you marry for sex, but sex with no marriage is fornication ,hopefully i did not get to deep.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    8 years ago

    Just do what makes you happy. There's nothing sinful about it.

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