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I have caught my 5 year old son in many lies. he lies often and completely makes up stories.?
My husband and I have had many talks with him and he doesnt answer or say anything. How do we get him to stop? He came hone from school and told meva boy slapped him in class and the teavher saw it. I asked the teacher and shevsaid she did not see that happen. At first I believed him because hes convincing. Im worried that if hes lying now at such a young age it will get worse as he gets older. Any advice would be great. Thank you. Oh and just a bit more info he has an older sister and younger brother. They are all about a year and a half apart. Thanks again.
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- 8 years agoFavorite Answer
Not afraid to communicate that didn't even make sense. This sounds like typical attention seeking behavior. My guess is both parents are very successful and therefore very busy.
- Marie S ZacharyLv 68 years ago
There are two possibilities.
1) there's something going on either environmentally (someone bullying him or hurting him) or biochemically
The second possibility is he's lying to entertain himself or get out of trouble or for attention.
Assuming the later is true (first verrify the former is not) here's what you do. You start a rlcp-- REAL LIFE CONSEQUENCE PROGRAM.
That is two parts
- Reward him when he's telling the truth and administer a REAL LIFE CONSEQUENCE for lying. The consequence should be that everything he says for the next 24 hours is treated like a lie. Rewards should start small and go to big
- HyperDogLv 78 years ago
It's time for a parenting class, folks. What you've got is a child who's afraid to communicate with you.
This is likely due to knee-jerk reactions where you immediately pull out some kind of punishment to try to get ahead of errant behavior. Keep that up and as a teenager, you'll really have your hands full.
My parents often told me "We'd rather hear about your mis-deeds from YOU, rather than your teacher, neighbor, the police, etc". When I DID disclose such, there was no punishment, per se. Rather, they spent time talking about it, and asking questions, and explaining why that was not good behavior, and more importantly, why it's better to behave differently.
Yes, parenting like that DOES take more time and energy, and often repeated discussions. The upside of that is you'll have open communications with your son (for the most part), because he won't fear you going ballistic for every little infraction. THEN, if he ever comes to you with something REALLY terrible, you'll have a better chance of intervening.