How to get my father out of the house?

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My father and mother have been together since they were teens and came her to California in order to have a better life. Im their eldest daughter about to enter my senior year in high school, and my mother has been planning to move close to the border in Texas, and if that happens my high school career will be over. I wont be able tog o too a good college or possibly finis high school, but my mother doesn't care, she is tired o my father.

I think my father might have a mental disorder. He is mentally abusive and a manipulative man, i think hes a sociopath. The problems have been there for years, and because of them I never mentioned I was raped by an ex boyfriend. He is crazy, and he won't leave the house, and believes that my mother is his property and he is a compulsive liar. My mother kicked him out yesterday but instead he threw all of his clothes out and stayed at home.

I dont know what to do, My mother is suicidal and we have no family support at all. I really do not want to move and I am planning to stay with my father in order to finish high school in Cali.

How can i convince my father to get out of the house, he is extremely paranoid too. I want hi out before he ruins my education plans. I seriously do not want to move my senior year to the border. I dont know my life is on the line, but i feel guilty and selfish especially since my mother told me she would kill herself if she wont leave and saying it our fault since we do not want to move.

HELP ME!

Anonymos · Accepted Answer

You're not being selfish. Of couse you want to finish high school and you should be able to. Neither of your parents sound very emotionally stable right now, and that is tough to deal with. You need to have a serious talk with an adult (like a friends parent who you know well or a family friend) and tell them what is going on. Or, if you have a school psychologist then they will probably be able to help. You should talk to your mom, preferably with a therapist if possible, and explain to her that you need to stay in California so you can have a good future. If you are comfortable with living with your dad for a year and he has never hurt you psyically then that is probably the best option. Also, if you have an aunt, uncle, or friend you could live with then that would also be a good idea. You need to tell someone that your mom is suicidal, and by someone I mean like a therapist or school counclier or pretty much just anyone who can help. When a person becomes a parent they need to understand that they have to put their children first.  She is trying to make you feel guilty, don't let her. Get her the help she needs, but don't let her manipulate you into doing things. The number one thing you need to do is tell a therapist, school counclier, family friend, or teacher that your mom is suicidal.

? · Answer

As much as you desire to finish your school there you don't want to stay with your father as he is not stable and he could harm you.  Talk to your school counselor and see what are the options you have. If you have enough credits you can finish early and online college programs are there.  Your mum needs to be away from your father as he could be the main source of her problem. Her life is far more important than your education. Pray for the wisdom and guidance.

real estate guy · Answer

yea it sucks that you may not be able to finish school in CA.  However, I'm betting you may have a friend that would allow you to live with them (with parents ok).

You are being selfish.  If it's as bad as you say, the mother needs to get out.  However, if your father is SO BAD, why would you live with him to finish school.  It's either to bad to stay or not as bad as you say.

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