I don't know what has happened to my mum, she treats us horribly now?

Your mum is not content with her life ... but this is not about you or your sister, you are probably the only good thing in her life!

SO... why can't your mum see this?.. Loneliness & Sadness can make people blind to the good things in their lives. My guess is that your mum is terribly lonely ~ the focus on men & on "her friends" is really just her searching for someone who cares for her, who see's her as important.

WHAT?? I hear you say... doesn't make sense does it..given she has you & your sister, how could she possibly be lonely? I am not talking about lonely in the sense of having people around her, even people (such as you & your sister) who need her... I'm talking lonely in the sense of feeling loved ... loved, valued, appreciated, respected, cared for, having someone she can rely upon & whom she can turn to, someone she knows will be there for her.

How does knowing this help you? .... Well, knowing this only helps you in that you can speak to your mother about this.. let her know that you understand she is lonely & that she longs to have someone truly special in her life.. remind her that you & your sister love her & need her...

If this doesn't work (& sadly I doubt it will - she is so lonely she has become overly absorbed in her own situation that she is unable to see the people in her life that do love her & do care for her... & do really need her!) ... if this is the case... talk with your grandmother & any aunts/uncles you might be close ... but speak to them privately & not with anger or animosity towards your mother (this is not an opportunity to bad mouth your mum ... it needs to come from a place of concern for her) talk to them about your concerns for your mother & for your sister & yourself.

Your mum needs to feel loved & like she is not alone, but realising this might require her to get a bit of a wake-up call! Good Luck!

Maybe she's found a new man and wants to have fun which is wrong, kids should be her first priority just like my kids are, I think you should ask your mum why she's behaving the way she is if she dosnt listen tell your gran to talk to her don't let this go, she's not behaving the way a mother should!

Sounds like your mam could have a drinking problem people don't change like that for no reason. And alcohol will make people change and do things they never would have before.