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lucy asked in Family & RelationshipsFamily · 8 years ago

I am tired of my parents asking me for money.. I am just a child?

I'm only seventeen years old, I save my money up and I make my money from selling my handmade things. I don't have a problem with helping my mother out but it's became a frequent thing. She is always asking me if she can borrow my money! It annoys me because she will not leave me alone until I do. Everytime she asks me I say yes, I feel like I'm being taken advantage of. Yesterday she was non stop asking me if she could borrow my money to go out clubbing.. I said no because she is struggling with money as it is so she can't afford to go out and she hadalready went out the night before. So I was about to leave the house and I went to give her a kiss goodbye am she walked away because I wouldn't give her the money. She then texted me trying to guilt trip me saying 'it looks like I am staying in the house all alone tonight' she did this whilst I am at my boyfriends house trying to watch a film and eat food and relax. She didn't stop texting me until I finally gave in.. So when I gave in she texted me saying 'you will have to borrow my friend some money too because she has no money' so I agree to borrow my mother it and then she expects to fund her friend money too!? What a joke! They wouldn't stop hasteling me until I said yes, so they arrived at my boyfriends house at 1am for money, they hastelled me all night and ruined mine and my boyfriends night. I am only 17.. Why should I fund my mothers clubbing money? She calls me spiteful and greedy and I hate that because every time she asks me I say yes! I feel like all people want from me is money!

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  • 8 years ago

    Grow a back bone or hide your money. This will go on for your entire live since your mother is a mooch.

    It is easier to hide your money than to flat out say no and mean it. She is not used to having two cents saved so it will be easy to tell her sorry you are broke. Have no money available so you can't give it to her. You don't need to explain where your money goes but if you need to prepay some future expenses. Since you are nearly old enough to leave home start buying things for your future home.

    Don't fall for her using her cash for fun then telling you she can't make the rent. Mooches know you would rather pay rent, electric and food than for money for alcohol and drugs.

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    HI'

    I agree with Precious Gem. You need to get someone to help you deal with this issue. It is not OK for your Mum to be behaving in this way - the role of mother/daughter have been completely reversed. It is a very complex situation and not one that I feel you can deal with alone. You obviously love her very much but she is abusing that love. Would you accept this kind of behaviour from anyone else? I think not. Please get some help - soon.

    Kind regards

    Anni

  • 8 years ago

    You don't. Please find another relative to stay with. You need to get away from your mother. She has a problem and she has made it your responsibility to help fund her problem. You can delete her texts as fast as she can text. If there are any relatives who can help you by talking to your mother than do so.

    If you have any agencies who could help relocate you then contact them as well. You mother needs to be reported because she isn't providing you with a good home nor is she supporting you. Good luck.

  • Wow. That's nuts. I rarely say this but you might want to think about not having her in your life until she grows up. Because she is messing you up. You're very genorous and it's good unless its hurting you which this is.

    You could tell her to forget about repaying you and that you hope night clubbing is worth losing your daughter.

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  • 8 years ago

    Then you and boyfriend get married, you move in with him with all your handmade items

    and get your back account out of your mother's name, you are old enough to do all these things.

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    Next time don't tell anyone you have money. Trust me.

  • 8 years ago

    tell her to work harder at work or get a job and does she always give u it back? and you shouldn't if its for clubbing :) good luck

  • 8 years ago

    tell her NO! its my money

    or just tell her youve no change you put alot of it into the bank

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