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Should I sleep with my wife during marriage counseling?
My wife and I have been fighting alot lately, and have had quite a few VERY big fights, not physical because I'll never hit a woman.
We just had our first child this past March, a beautiful daughter. She wanted to relocate out of my home state to where she grew up once having our daughter because she wanted to be close to her mom, so I did that for her. Since then, we have been fighting alot about sex. Either she isn't interested in having sex at all, or when we do have sex, she is not passionate about it at all, and I have become very bored with "just having sex" when we do have sex, which is rarely ever. I'd much rather just not do it.
I have been sleeping on the couch alot. I gave her two options last night: 1) go to marriage counseling with me with our church pastor, OR 2) I leave and go back to my home state and it is finished for good. She amazingly chose counseling.
Should I continue to sleep in the same bed with her while we are in marriage counseling or should I force her to spend a while in the bed alone and I set up camp on the couch?
She cheated on me last year before I found out she was pregnant....not in person, but through the internet and her cell phone by "sexting" and sending explicit pictures and videos to about 4 or 5 different guys across the country......
Because we haven't started the counseling yet, starts later this week
6 Answers
- swamp-foxLv 58 years ago
Sleeping on the couch and avoiding her could send the message to her that you are halfway checked out and out the door already. It sounds like there is an underlying reason why she's no longer interested in sex. The fighting is a major turn off itself, the sleepless nights and other child-related fatigue/stress could be factors as well. For women the quality of sex is in tune with the quality of relationship she has with the partner. With things with you going south and the possible unknown underlying reasons, sex is no longer enjoyable and she doesn't want it because for her it's going through the motions to get you to be quiet. I think you should focus on fixing things with her and finding what hidden emotional issues (such as postpartum depression) she could be experiencing but doesn't feel like she can share.
- Red BarronLv 68 years ago
If you're in counseling, then this is a good question for the counselor, not internet strangers.
- Anonymous8 years ago
Why didn't you ask this question why you were at marriage counseling? Why pay a professional marriage counseling if you not going to ask him questions???
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