4yr old son having trouble, attitude changes, what to do?

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Hey peeps!

My partner and i are looking for a way that one or both of us can spend more time at home with our kids. Up until now we have both been putting in 42-48/week so that we could get a house, provide for the kdis and still have leftover for some wants. Well we've gotten to that point and now our 4-yr old son has been having some issues. (He isn't in anykind of 4K program yet because he won't be able to start school until he's 5 based on when his bday is.) as of right now he and our 19 mo daughter have been going to an in-home sitter. Everything was great until recently. The last few months our son has become extra sassy, he doesn't listen, has been very agressive and won't kiss or hug us goodbye. in fact he seems to get angry when we leave.

I'm worried that he hasn't been getting enought attention since we work so much. he also doesn't want to go to my mom's house at all anymore because he's afraid we'll leve him there. (she is out back up sitter) this makes me incredably sad and has made my time at work suffer as well. I've never been all that pleased with my job to begin with, but this makes it that much harder. our thought is to start our own in-home daycare. i can be at home with the kids and still have a source of income. i'm just wondering who out there has their own or uses one. what do you like about using/having your own? what type of rates do you have? have it been benificial for you?

also if you have any other advice on what we can do to help our son that would be great!

Thanks so much!!

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Unless you have a passion for children and want to be a home day care provider, your motives for doing so just for the sake of your own kids is not strong enough to suddenly fall in love with being a day care provider and be thoroughly happy about it.  Watching children all day every day is exhausting and you have to put up with quite bit and give up your freedom.  If you don't have what it takes, this could tear you apart.  Just a thought.  Also, do you realize the insurance coverage you need to have and how your home has to comply with safety and health department issues?  You have to learn life saving techniques and regularly get certified for this, that and the other thing.  You either have it in you or you don't.

I think getting into the home day care business so you can be with your kids is the wrong reason to do so.

Something is happening during the day where your son spends his time to account for his sudden behavior changes.  Kids go to day care every day and may not have these same issues, so you must find out what is happening when you are not with him.  For him to suddenly boycott your mother's house is weird.  Kids usually love grandma's house.  I would investigate what the heck is happening.

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I don't have any background knowledge on the daycare question. I can offer some suggestions as to books that you might find helpful in regards to your son.

Parenting Your Powerful Child -http://bit.ly/17mdTx4
Have a New Kid by Friday- http://bit.ly/1egJeTM
The Five Love Language of Children- http://bit.ly/1femCX1

I heard an awesome broadcast that goes along with the first book. You can listen to it here http://bit.ly/I1PJyz.

Good luck!

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