My parents won't let me go to a sleepover at my friend's house.?

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It's just the two of us and we're both 13 year old girls.
My friend invited me to her house for a sleepover tonight. I called my mom to ask her if she was okay with it (she was at work). She said no because my friend has two older brothers and she thinks something bad might happen. This isn't the first time she said "no" for this reason. I tried telling her that I'm old enough to handle myself, but it's "too dangerous". My parents used to let me go when I was younger, but not anymore. We always have our sleepovers at my house and I'm getting really bored of it. I only have a younger sister, but she's a nuisance (another reason why I want to have the sleepover there).
One of my friend's brothers is like 20 (he's home from college on weekends) and the other is 17. I've known my friend and her brothers for 8 years and her brothers have never tried to physically hurt me or start anything. I definitely don't think they will start now. They usually just ignore my friend and I, so I don't think my mom's reason is a problem. We're barely ever in the same room for crying out loud.
I'm kind of ticked off about my mom's reason because she cares too much about this part of my life (independence and relationships) and barely anything else in my life. My parents don't care about my happiness, mental health, interests, grades (not that they have to, I'm pretty much a perfect student), fun, or anything except my relationships and independence. They don't even know that I might have depression (never got it tested, because they don't take it seriously). They won't let me go anywhere myself either.

How do I convince my parents to let me go to my friend's house?
How can I tell them to stop caring about this part of my life and start caring more about other things in my life?

Katie · Accepted Answer

Unfortunately, lots of bad things happen to young people and it terrifies parents everywhere. It sounds like your mother is simply trying to protect you, although you don't feel you need protection. It's understandable - all you have to do is pick up a newspaper or switch the tv on nowadays to hear something awful has happened.
This situation seems pretty harmless, and you're clearly comfortable around the older boys in your friends' family. Perhaps it would be beneficial to ask your mom to call your friends' mom and politely lay out some ground rules - for example, she might suggest that you girls are under parental supervision during your waking hours at the house. In time, your mom may start feel more comfortable with the situation

? · Answer

Be grateful that you have parents that care in that way.  A lot of girls get into trouble with boys having sex getting into drugs. My grandparents was the same as your parents. I hated them for it but now I am adult I realize why they did that. It's because they cared and loved me. It's the same with your parents. There is lot things that are happening and they don't want it to happen to you.

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