Daughters birthday party DISASTER! Family Drama?

So my husband has three older daughters in their 20s and then we have our kids 8y/o and 8 months. My daughter had her birthday party at the local rec swimming pool. Lots her friends showed up that was a success. I (mother) was left to serve all the children passing out the cake and ice cream hell I did it all. Very much unorganized chaos. Anywho we didn't sing happy birthday to her because she didn't have a candle and no one was really paying attention all her sisters and farther and their boyfriends standing in a social circle talking ( not paying attention to her or anything) AWKWARD while all her friends parents looked on to me as I was trying to get everything rolling. While she opened her presents her family (my daughters sisters and dad) didn't even watched and then they would tell me to have her to open their gifts so that they could hurry and leave because they had work and other things to do. I find this very rude not only to my daughter but also to me. I felt like they didn't care really about her party ( I know my daughter had a good time because she had so many of her friends their) but its so stressful for me and aggravating because his family the only family we have has no consideration and doesn't care to help. It makes me not want to though another birthday party again.