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Confused about my ex girlfriend?? Please help!?
A little background: I met a girl on an online dating site who I immediately had a connection with. We eventually became a couple and fell for each other. We dated for a few months but it was a long distance relationship even though she will be moving to my area soon. My family owns a hotel by the beach so I invited her to stay for spring break. Then last week she broke up with me for suspecting that I cheated on her. Regardless, she still came down and has been staying with me (mind you this is our first time meeting in person). Now, here is why I'm confused...She has made it clear that she doesn't trust me and can't date me (at least for the foreseeable future) and just wants to be friends. However, the last couple nights we have been staying up all night cuddling in my bed while watching movies. When I mention feelings, she gets offended and mad. But when I don't acknowledge the cuddling and holding, she doesn't seem to mind. What is going on? Is she just putting up an emotional block? What should I do? Why the mixed signals?
Also, we have been having a great time together this week except for when I try to talk about "us". We are a perfect match.
2 Answers
- JLv 77 years ago
First of all, a person can portray themselves in any way online. Yes, she is blocking you. I suspect even using you for a free (or cheap) vacation at the moment while she assesses how financially set you are. Some con games are to have the girl be the bait. They find a mark (victim) and will eventually want money from them. Playing games along the way, like hard to get, gives them more emotional leverage over the mark later.. And starts the ball rolling when the mark has proven they are easily manipulated and willing to give in or follow along. Most women will have a partner in this. Or even a bf who gets them involved in this scam in the first place. I am not saying this girls is doing that, but, her behavior is suspicious. Especially if you weren't cheating, and she accused you of it. Now you are still willing as 'friends' to put her up in your family's hotel, and lavish attention on her and comply with her terms.. And you don't honestly know squat about her besides what she has told
Source(s): You herself. You take it at face value and already want more. You are proving yourself to be a perfect mark already. Take this slow, and don't give her any money. If she comes up with some distress story needing some, then remember my words here. If you marry her later, get a prenup. Trust me. If she refuses the prenup, it was all about the money anyways. You've been warned. Good luck. - 7 years ago
I have no intention of sounding like a jerk, but I'd say you should get rid of her while you still have the chance. Chances are she has a malicious agenda in mind, and I'm getting the idea that she's going to do something rather terrible to you first chance she gets.
Again, sorry if I sound rude or mean in any way, but I'm just saying this for your sake. I've seen what they do to guys, and believe me, it's not good at all.
