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Why does my brother always feel like he's better than me?
My 20 year old brother continues to think that he's better than me. He knows better, looks better, and in his words"knows what's up". He has had 2 arrests, has been beaten to a pulp over drugs, lost his job, and still hasn't shown any effort to get another. He's a full time student at a state school, but commutes to class. I'm sick and tired of having to hear him complain about his situations but when I throw advice at him, he says I'm a condescending ***** that doesn't know what's up until I get to college. I'm 17, I feel like I do know what's up. Over the years, I have oddly learned from his mistakes and don't get into trouble. I view him as a baby that can't get his **** together and is stubborn. He just can't see how his friends bring him down. He gets mad that I can't be empathetic. I can't rationalize his actions, and I refuse to be empathetic.
He feels the need always say I'm wrong, or call me out when I patronize my younger brother. He's always moody and mad. As soon as I bring up his past, he explodes. I hope it's just a phase. But in the meantime, how can I cope with his childish behavior? I can't take him being an ahole anymore. He feels like everyone else is the ahole, not him.
3 Answers
- ?Lv 77 years ago
Why do you care?
Let him think what he wants. Clearly he has a lot of issues he is dealing with...or trying to. Eventually, he'll realize he's a normal human and come down off the pedestal. But that's up to him....not you.
YOU need to stop acting like a child as well. Stop patronizing your younger brother or needling your older brother. There's no reason for it. You just end up looking like your boastful older brother. Do you really want that?
- Special KLv 67 years ago
You shouldn't even be talking or association with someone like that. Dude ignore him. What he means when he says he knows better is he knows whats jail like and how to get there. He has some consequences that you will never see. Ignore him and move on with your life, don't let low lives mess with your head like that. If he thinks he knows better than everyone else at his age then he lost his damn mind. You will get ahead of him in life, don't think like him, don't talk to him. People like that don't want to succeed and don't want others to succeed too. So stay away from him before he brings you down.
Source(s): To piss him off, everytime he gives you his input just be like thanks for the feedback but I'm not asking for advice to go to jail or lose a job so thanks for your input but keep it to yourself - elaeblueLv 77 years ago
You cant change him. All you can change is your reaction to him.
Quit giving him advice. If he complains just let him and then let it go.
You don't have to be empathic about it .. just let it go - its not your problem its his.
He isn't gonna listen to you until he is ready to make some changes in his life.. and even then it might not be you he does talk too. Just let him live his life and go on with yours.
