Is it possible for my ex husbands new wife to do this?

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This is my last year at college and the teacher of my calculus class told me I was failing the class and I should get a tutor.  He had a list that only contained 2 names.  He said they charged $95 per hour.  This was money I did not have.  I ask both of them if they would do tutoring on credit and they said no. I knew I was in BIG trouble.  I went through my phone book and called EVERYONE and no one would lend me the money to pay for a tutor. I was about to give up when my mother suggested I call my ex husband to see if he would loan me some money.  He has since remarried so I knew there was VERY LOW odds he would do it.  I had not talked to him in over 2 years.

I concluded that I had nothing to loose by calling him and asking for a loan.  What he said just blew me away.  He said there is no need to go into debt for a tutor. Come over and he would do it for FREE.  That really shocked me.  I wanted with every bone in my body to take him up on his offer because it meant I would graduate on time.  I told him I did not want to cause him any problems with his wife.  He said she finished calculus just 2 years ago and she knew how hard it was.  He also said she would help him tutor me.  WOW WOW WOW.

Could a wife really be OK with her husband tutoring his former wife?  I don’t think I could if the situation was reversed.  Should I take his word that his wife is OK with it or should I call her and ask her if she is OK with him helping me.  The LAST thing I want to do is cause him a problem.

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Take it! What have you got to lose? It's apparent that neither of them feel you are a threat to their marriage, and what's more is that they feel comfortable enough with you to have an amicable relationship. Believe it or not, divorce doesn't always have to mean a bad relationship with your ex. A friend of mine is actually very close friends with her ex husband, and she has also become quite good friends with his new girlfriend, now his wife.

This doesn't necessarily mean you'll become good friends with your ex and his wife, but it is an opportunity to build a positive relationship with them. Either way, it is also an opportunity to get tutoring without spending a bunch of money on it. If for any reason it doesn't work out, you can always walk away. At least you tried.

Anonymous · Answer

I would be totally okay with an ex that hadn't bothered to contact my spouse for 2 years; especially one who writes "The LAST thing I want to do is cause him a problem."

If one was calling constantly or stalking, that's the one to look out for.

One of the reasons I trust my current consort so much is because he parted on pretty good terms with his ex-wife and girlfriends.  It's a good sign if one can end things amicably.

canuck1950 · Answer

What have you got to lose? The worst case scenario is you don't get free tutoring, the Best, you pass and you can relax about your ex and his new wife. If the offer is truly sincere then I'd have to commend the new wife and perhaps someday when you are earning a decent wage you can repay her with a nice gift.

Anonymous · Answer

That's weird, I would not be okay with an ex hanging around

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Take the offer! You can certainly talk to his wife, too. If their both there to help you, then there's no problem. Good luck with calculus!

seedy history · Answer

Ask the 5 top students in the class, individually, if they'd take on the job for $30. At least one of them will say, "Yes".

Anonymous · Answer

I think it's awesome they are both willing to help. Her helping to is probably why it's OK with her that he helps you out. Reading too much into it will hurt more then help.

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I don't see a problem with it, if there is no conflict?

Anonymous · Answer

Take the offer...she obviously doesn't feel you are a threat to her marriage....

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