I feel so lonely?

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I'm 16. Literally all of my closest friends are in relationships except for 1, but she has so many other friends so I can't always talk to her. There's this guy I like, but he's completely friendzoned me, so I don't even know why I'm still trying. I've been rejected by every single guy that I've liked. I just feel like I'm not deserving of being in a happy relationship. Maybe I wouldn't care so much if all of my friends didn't basically ignore me everyday because their boyfriends are always around. I am a pretty nice, funny, smart person, but I feel like the reason I don't have a boyfriend is because I'm fat and not that pretty. I know it's terrible for my confidence, but that's how I feel. All I want is for somebody to love me. I've gotten to the point where I hate going to school or going places, because I hate seeing everyone so happy. I just wish that I didn't feel like I had to be in a relationship to be happy, but I really can't help it. I would really just rather be with my family.
I just hate being the loner and the ultimate third wheel. I just want someone to make me happy. (I just really want the guy I like). Any advice?

Elle · Accepted Answer

AllyPandaBearLuv, do you want a b/f because all your friends have a b/f, or because you really want to experience one?

Life is full of "all my __________ are __________ except me" moments. Marriage, babies, promotions, retirement, divorce. (OK just kidding on the last one.) It's your life, and it needs to move at a pace that's good for YOU.

That means you're not going to have a life identical to your friends, or be experiencing the same thing(s) at the precise moment they are.

I know you want to fit in really badly, but try to remember you are you--not your friends. And what is good or right for them may not be for you.

Finally, high school is brutal (B-R-U-T-A-L) for girls that don't look like Penthouse centerfolds. I know if makes you want to tear your fingernails out one by one, but if you can wait a little bit, most guys do grow up and look beyond the obvious when they're sizing up a potential mate.

And you definitely sound like one. Hang in there.

Smiles · Answer

Men can be so selfish jerks, especially in high school. Men are not everything in life. Focus on your happiness (anything not including a guy like movies, hobbies, school) and when the time is right, it will happen. Life is too short to enjoy the simple things and when you have jerk off friends who are obsessed with their "current" (because they hardly ever last) relationship, you see who your true friends are (which is not many), and figure out more on the person you truly are and what you truly want in life and in a man. It is very hard in life being the "single" friend. (I have always been the single friend.) But as life moves on, so do you, and you find yourself being more independent, more structured, and happier (because you know what you want in a man and in life in general.) Don't ever dull your sparkle for any man. You will find him out there! Until then, enjoy your independence unlike your nonsingle friends can't!!!!!!

Lauria · Answer

There was a time where i felt lonely in high school, but before you know it high school will be over. You're so young theres still SO many new friends you can make and so many more guys that will want you. Trust me, you'll see who your real friends are after high school because most likely your friends wont be with the same guys nor have the same friends

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