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Sean Vasko
Sean Vasko asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 7 years ago

Frequent random spurts of regret/sorrow?

I'm recovering from a failed attempt of getting a girlfriend. September 2013 I met a girl and all the way to mid April 2014 everything was going perfect, or so I thought... I was getting very used to having someone to care/love. So it was very depressing to see this leave. I see her every Thursday at a 4-h club (NY animal community club) . Here's the problem: I constantly am trying to avoid this club because of her. I get small thoughts of regret and nervousness pretty much anywhere. When I force myself to go I am completely fine at the club because ignoring her directly shaves off some of the stress. I want to stop these stressful thoughts. That's all. Thinking of or doing other stuff is not that reliable to fixing this. And talking to her about it will not work because things will get worse (much worse) I am 15, I have never cared so much about someone and it was easy to lose that. I am waiting until after college for dating because it's not worth it. At least not right now.

Recap: ALL I want to change is the regret/sorrow thoughts

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  • boystownhotline
    Lv 7
    7 years ago
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    Hello,

    Your 'recap' spoke lots about you. Thanks for that piece. First, grieving the loss of a relationship is much the same as grieving the death of someone close to you. It all hurts much the same way and in each situation, only through the passing of time will healing begin.

    To change the feelings of regret and sorrow that you are experiencing will also take time and just as important, a change in your focus. If you aren't ready to date yet, at least go out and have fun with other people. Take time for yourself by focusing on things you enjoy doing. See if there is a different 4-h club that you can attend. Move into other circles of positive friendships and acquaintances.

    If you would like to speak to a counselor, please call a Boys Town National Hotline counselor, 24/7, at 1-800-448-3000 or go to www.yourlifeyourvoice.org

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    You should get a girlfriend and stop hanging on to your old one.

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