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My dad asked my boytriend if he will marry me and its only been 2 months!?
Ive been seeing this guy for two months. We met onlibe a few weeks before that. I told him i wanted to get to know him better before sex, so we waited almost a month and the first time he couldnt even get it up he was so nervous! After i told him i was jealous he was seeing other girls, he told me he got rid of them as he sees me as longer term potential and asked me to be his girlfriend.
My dad now wanted to meet him (they never met.any guy i dated as i was a late boomer. Im 25 and my guy is 26). I waited three weeks before asking my guy to meet my dad. He was super nervous, but said he would do it for me and we scheduled it.
It was so awkward bc my dad basically interrogated him (hes traditional and from another country and both parents are religious. I am somewhat and my boyfriend isnt at all though he was raised catholic). My dad asked if he was there to propose and if.not what were his intentions. He said to take time to get to know me as we havent known each other that long. I agreed n that eventually i want marriage, but i dont know if its him.
After, i asked my bf his thoughts on marriage that he really doesnt believe in the institution and feel people just do it because its time, but arent happy. He saiid he prob will get married one day since he wants kids and society expexts it of him. I told him how i think marriage is the ultimate symbol of love and commitment.he gotit.he knos i wont live w a guy unless were engaged. Does it sound like our rs is doomed!?
1 Answer
- KoryPLv 47 years ago
Doomed!? Well, you're not off to the best start.
It sounds like your dad loves you a lot. He wants you to be with a guy who will be committed to you. If your b/f is actually downplaying the importance of marriage, I'd wager your dad's suspicions were spot on.
At 26, why is he "nervous" to meet your dad? Maybe he's got a guilty conscience?
I'm surprised you're stunned by the idea of marriage at 2 months and had little to no concern about sex at 1 month. I hope he was never able to finally "get it up." Sex without commitment is a recipe for disaster. And it's hard to stop once you start. Still, if you love each other enough, it's possible to stop. Though, at 2 months in, I have no idea how you could really love each other. Chemistry, sure. Excitement of a new relationship, I expect so. Incredible desire to feel the security that intimacy is supposed to promise, I'd be amazed if not. But love? Sacrificial love? For starters, I would think he'd put aside any fear he might have and be eager to meet your dad--learn where you came from--learn everything about you. But that sort of love develops over time--and only in an environment of respect. I don't know your boyfriend, but I'd wager the vast majority of guys who get easy access to sex (even if they're initially nervous about it) will start seeing a person as an object for their own gratification.
I hope things work out for you.