Can you really trust anyone?

I'm assuming you are a guy here:

I agree things are getting worse in America like this. Luckily, not everybody in America was born here. Some people are good hearted but I agree this number is getting smaller and smaller. There are a lot of contributors here, but to name a few. People watching way way too much tv especially entertainment showing how infidelity and dishonesty are cute in some way (i.e. desperate housewives), the instant gratification plague, 16 hour work days and people married just so they get a break on their income taxes or because they got somebody pregnant.

I've mostly dated women from other countries (both in their country and here) and there are many cultures that place a much greater value on loyalty and family then Americans do right now. There are American girls here that do too, but they are harder to find.

Asian girls (from the old world) virtually always see family as more important than looks and money. The ones I dated were from Taiwan, Korea and the Philippines. All were devoted and put family first.

In general, when looking for a potential wife the following are good signs:

1) She has parents who are genuinely in love. If you see them holding hands in public they are and that's a good sign. They take their relationship seriously and she's probably learned this as a child.

2) Her previous relationships are either few and far between and/or they broke up for good reasons. "He didn't make enough money" or "He got boring" are not good reasons.

3) She doesn't come from a wealthy family. Hate to say it, but I've never dated a girl from a rich family that wasn't a spoiled brat. Everybody thinks when you date a millionaires daughter you have it made, but the reality is she is spoiled rotten to the point she appreciates nothing let alone you.

4) She expresses appreciation. This sounds crazy today, but girls who thank you for a "wonderful time" or even just for taking them out are obviously very sweet. Of all the girls I dated, I always knew I was in trouble when a girl expected me to pay for everything and never offered a "thank you" let alone pick up a check once in a while.

5) She has a healthy relationship with her parents. Anybody who was abused, is afraid of, or can't stand up to their parents means you in are in for a really rough ride.

Hope that helps, good people are still out there, just harder and harder to find.

Many people stay married "for the kids" or they don't want the title of "being divorced". You can trust people, it sounds like the couples you are talking about probably needed to divorce many years ago but just stayed and cheated.

I agree with all that "Rescued by the Lamb" said, and others of the same vine.

We should always consider that if we want to be forgiven, we should forgive those that "repent" or ask for our forgiveness for, for what is compassion for, when there is no transgression? Only when a fault is confessed and asked for forgiveness is there compassion. For if you love those that love you, is that something compassionate? Maybe, there is a brokenness for the moment but time heals all things especially for those that can forgive and expect that the wrong is not to be repeated, see that The Gospel be for you and guide yourself with compassion yet with no intention of being a door mat... Keep the values for yourself and generously for others...don't let failure destroy, where possible, and according to your ability to be genuine in your emotions to be a peacemaker... When young, you're less likely to understand and appreciate the respect for a human being and their value to Grace. So, where possible, hold values that save and redeem; if it so be that you expect the same and while calling it Right, Right and Wrong, Wrong yet, kindness if kindness is appropriate and don't any of this on your own, but must be taken to God In Prayer. Stern yet soft, save life and don't destroy another. Keep The Faith in the middle of the storm, for no one is Good but God, yet keep HIS Commandments be wise in HIS Spirit, bottom line, judge a Good Judgement, it is what it is, now choose wisely...

There is a lot of cheating going on, but still there are many marriage where the partners are faithful. It sounds like you have mainly talked to the "other half" the cheaters and the ones who were cheated on. Start talking to older couples, ones who have been faithful to each other for years, and still hold hands and even have sex. They are out there. There is hope.

Personally? I'm not too impressed with the people you surround yourself with if this is the case. All this "doom and gloom" about divorce. Good grief. If you're a decent person and present yourself well and honestly AND have the WISDOM to be selective IN WHO YOU DATE and take up with? This is hardly an issue.

The problem is? Many dumb-bunnies out there who are desperate, needy, pathetic and don't do their "homework" or pay attention to "red flags". They truly deserve what they get!

Grace

The world is changing. Families are builded of different way now. If you are older not must lose time making analysis about as other people live. Take care of you and enjoy life while you can. Enjoy each moment without great expectations. If you find someone, and love this person, only stay happy. Infidelity can happens, but why it is so tragic? we are human. The love is blind. I think the better is enjoy a moment, without think in to be a owner of nobody. Enjoy life. Good luck,

As humans we are not driven by instinct like other animals where the wiring is set by evolution over millions of years - We are all able to think and make choices based on feelings today.... Our decisions are made by combiations of immaturity, experience, selfishness, arrogance, greed and vengence just to name a few AND when you combine those things with mood, feelings and other personality traits like boredom, loneliness and desire.......anything is possible....PLUS add female and male thinking and logic into the mix....

BUT depite all that, remaining positive and believing that being human is a wonderful gift is important. We all make mistakes and do silly things which in fact is not a reason to be discouraged by human frailty - it is the reason to embrace how lucky we are and therefore find in our minds ways to understand and forgive.... That is being human...

In all my years I can understand your thinking. I myself was cheated on not once but twice by ex-husbands. The man I'm married to now (30 years) is not perfect but he doesn't drink, cheat, or abuse me physically. People have a low tolerance level anymore and just don't put up with their partners shenanigans and get divorced over every little thing anymore.

When Christ becomes part of the couple's lives things change, they become "one" flesh. Why would you destroy your own body if you are not pleased with it? You work to change the flaws that are changeable and accept the ones that are not. You take your problems to God when they get out of hand and allow Him to work on them.

We have to remember that God allowed the union with the person "YOU" chose and He's making the best of it for you. Knowing God's wisdom He doesn't make mistakes and we need to trust Him always.

The wisdom of God tells us that God will bring about the best possible results, by the best possible means, for the most possible people, for the longest possible time. Really meditate upon this because it can change your thinking and your whole life.

Whenever hardships, illness, financial difficulties or whatever befalls them; they together need to turn to God not others for consolation. The problem with the world today is people are trying to do everything in their own strength instead of turning to the One who CAN help them. We are all frail creatures and our lives are but a vapor we NEED God in our lives.

He loved us so much that He sent His only begotten Son to die for us ... to pay for OUR sins so we could be reconciled to our Creator. It's really simple just turn your thinking from you can do it on your own to trusting in what Christ has already done for you. He died for you, was buried, and rose again the third day according to the Scriptures. I serve a living God who wants what is best for me and for all His children ... even the unsaved if they will only come to Him in faith and trust Christ's death payment, burial, and resurrection as the ONLY way to heaven.

My friend don't be discouraged about what is going on around you. Keep your eyes on heavenly things and God will work things out for you. It's all about our perspective on life and God. Grace to you.

Me at age 51 am just staying single. Id rather go on Craigslist & get a 22 yr old hard-body Escort for $200. Cheaper than dating, marriage & kids. Plus ZERO DRAMA! I use to be a great guy but psycho women changed me. My money is for me!

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