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Should my child and I move in with him?

To start I just moved across the country to WI with my family and left a new and exciting relationship in GA.

The guy I was dating came for a visit and I really am considering moving back to GA with my 14-month-old to be with him. I have a support system including grandparents, aunt and dad in WI, but my mom, sisters, and this man are down south. I asked him to think about it and he said he would.

If he were to tell me to move back to GA would I be crazy to do it?

I'd really upset my family in WI if I did it. I've known him for several months, I'm 23 and I could see something coming of it. He has a career and he's in school in GA. I'm in online college and I'm waitressing, so I don't see what I'd be losing besides a close relationship. I'm miserable living with my Dad and Aunt and I'm ready to be on my own.

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  • 7 years ago

    The only way this makes sense is if you keep your romantic interest in him completely separate from your life with your child. It's a little scary that you think it makes sense to move in with a total stranger and expose your child to him. Why aren't you asking what's best for your child? That's supposed to be your focus now, not your love life.

    If you decide to do this, it should be because you like GA better. And there's no way in hell you should move in with him. Again, your child isn't with his biodad, so already you've done something wrong. Barely a year later you want to expose him to a stranger? You're a mom now, not a single girl living the dating lifestyle.

    So be a little more mature as you think this through. If it means you have to save more money to get your own place, then do it. But always put your kid first.

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    Completely agree with Messykatt. The worst reason in the world to move in with someone is because you're unhappy with your current living situation. If you want to move to Georgia, get your own place, or move in with your mom. Then see how your relationship goes. This is going to end up being very messy if either of you decides the relationship isn't working but your sharing a living space. And then when you move out, your child has lost one more person he's learned to care for.

  • Nguyen
    Lv 6
    7 years ago

    If you insist on moving in with this man, you need to find somewhere else for your child to live, such as his father or your family. You do not know this man.

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