why do doctors always come off as rude?

every one is now a days

They don't 'always' come off as rude. Doctors are human like everyone else. And they are very busy, and may be come across as 'blunt'.

More to the point, why does the doctor think your 3 year old needs to be in school? Are you not able to provide the educational enrichment that she needs? (Do you read to her? Take her places? Play games that provide basic preschool-level academics? Does she go to a daycare where there the kids sit in front of the tv all day?) Or is she gifted and would benefit from even more enrichment?

They do not always come off as rude. My family doctor, my children's pediatricians and my OB/GYN are great doctors. There are some partners those doctors have had that I have had issue with. I either firmly stand up for myself/my child or change the subject, whichever is most appropriate given the circumstances. You should have simply said "Because I believe it is essential for them to spend the early years at home, nurtured by mom" or something followed with "But, we are here because...".

I highly suggest that if you have ongoing issues with the doctor, you find one that you will have a more compatible relationship with. You need to be partners when it comes to your child's medical care.

It's the way people are trained in are society . Think about it...Do you maybe "hate" things you dislike? Do you maybe feel pressured not to conform to the group way of thinking? All this progress in are century, and nothing for the better of the average person. It's sad day, but not for invested interest of billionaires

She was probably wondering why you had a child, if you couldn't afford to educate her *according to her ability*. If your doctor feels that she is ready for school, she probably is. Why should anyone else pay for it? That is your responsibility. I was what was once called a "gifted child" and my single mother had to go through an insane amount of hardship to pay for my elementary school education. You're only being asked to pay for one year, before you put her into a system that is, quite frankly, substandard. It's not the end of the world.

If the doc believes that child is ready or needs some type of schooling now, then instead of getting all pissed off about. Find out what you can be doing at home, to help the kid. Those first years, birth through 5, are setting the stage for the next ten as far as how they will preform. if a doc tells you your kid needs more educational stimulation, then you should be figuring out how to go about getting that done.

That's a big generalisation to make from ONE encounter. I've always found any doctor I've attended to be most courteous, helpful and professional. After reading your question, did you ever think maybe you were the one being rude ?

Doctors aren't always rude. And like anyone else, sometimes they go through moods. You might go to this doctor next time and he/she will be totally nice...or not.

If you are really unhappy with your doctor, then you should change. But if your experiences have been mostly positive, then consider giving them another chance.

BTW if you would like to put your child in school you could see if you qualify for HeadStart.

Sometimes doctor's are rushing around off schedule and they are just very direct straight forward and it does sometimes seem rude.

Obviously, this doctor has an opinion that clashes with yours.

Find another doctor.