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Amanda C
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Amanda C asked in Family & RelationshipsEngagements & Weddings · 7 years ago

where can i host my small engagement party (lunch) for 40 people?

Me and my boyfriend are not officially engaged yet but he has bought the ring and we talked about everything he just hasnt officially proposed yet. it;s all a matter of when and where he would like to pop the question. Anyways, we have already decided on a guest list and what type of engagement party we would like to have and the list comes to 40 with me and my boyfriend included. we would like a simple lunch party with a little lunch buffet and maybe some wine. the only problem is we can't decide on the location because we live with my parents in a 6 and 1/2 apartment. however the building has a small cafeteria that tenants can use for parties or events i'm just worried that something like that would be to informal or not large enough. i was thinking perhaps we can host the food/lunch in the cafeteria then hold games, chats, and other things in the apartment. do you think this would be sufficient space for something like this? keep in mind we are trying to keep the budget to as minimum as possible because it is me and my boyfriend who are paying for everything to do with the wedding including this. Also we only plan on getting married in about 3 years to ensure we have the finances. we cant have a picnic because it is to cold

Update:

also keep in mind i can not cut down the guest list as i have a large close family and have already put as minimal as possible.

Update 2:

in case it matters we are 23 and 24 and we have been together 7 years

Update 3:

it seems people are misunderstanding me. By officially i mean that he hasn't actually yet proposed and given me the ring and we haven't announced it to everyone. We have already discussed our plans on marriage and have set the budget and the date and we have discussed all other details. we went ring shopping together and he has already bought the ring it's just he hasn't officially popped the question because he would like some element of surprise.

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Also everyone included is close family and close friends of which we have been friends with for many years and are considered family. just because we are not getting married next year, does not mean we are not actively planning a wedding. we just want to give ourselves time to actually accumulate the budget we have planned. having an engagement party a year into an engagement hardly makes sense when the point is to celebrate the engagement not the wedding. it would be old news by then.

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  • Messykatt
    Lv 7
    7 years ago

    There's several things wrong with your plan. For one thing, an engagement party is for couples who are engaged and are actively planning their wedding, including setting a date and deposits. At this point, you're in a serious relationship. People don't throw parties for this.

    One reason it matters is that everyone invited to an engagement party needs to be invited to the wedding. You might feel right now that these people are included, but a lot can change in 3 years. Many couples who make vague plans to save up money for a big wedding several years away get tired of waiting and just get it done in a civil service.

    Finally, even if everything else was ok, these are hardly mandatory. Every penny you spend putting this together would be much better spent on your "wedding fund".

  • Rosalie
    Lv 7
    7 years ago

    Being engaged means you are actively planning a wedding, usually within the year. It doesn't just mean you are a committed couple.

    Given that, it makes far more sense for you to hold off for another year or even two if that is when you actually plan to marry, and save up to have your engagement party at a local restaurant with a function room. Often there is little or no charge for hosting an event in one of their rooms, since you are paying for the food. Even a nice spaghetti joint can give you a decent room and service, and they even do the dishes...you have plenty of time, so save up for that instead. Cramming people into an apartment isn't going to be nice, and will be against fire codes.

  • Lydia
    Lv 7
    7 years ago

    It's fine in the cafeteria. An engagement party isn't a formal event, it's just a small get-together for family and very close friends to meet one another, and to introduce the bridal party. You don't need to plan games or anything, just some drinks and snacks for nibbles.

  • BeatriceBatten
    Lv 7
    7 years ago

    If you're on a budget then it's best to skip something as unnecessary as an engagement party.

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  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    Ask your condo/apartment association if the venue fits 40 people. Bring a friend or family to help you confirm this.

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