So should I go or not go?

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So my uncle and aunt have been around since I was a kid. I have played with their daughter and we share a pretty good relationship.
However, some years back I went to a trip with them and my brother. My uncle and aunt gave me a hard time about the way I dress, the way I talk and everything about me. Honestly, nobody had ever said things like that to me. I don't want to sound conceited. But I am pretty well-behaved and I dress alright.
Anyway, at a recent gathering, when my uncle kinda again started telling me everything that is wrong with me, I snapped. I know I was rude. But it was too much to take.
I felt guilty. But i haven't gotten a chance to apologize. Moreover, I am not even sure if I want to.
Now my uncle and aunt have moved to Singapore and their daughter and my brother are visiting them. One of my other aunts is going too. I don't know if I should go. Back in May I told them that I might have examinations. But now they know that I don't and my mom has told me to make a quick decision because the tickets are getting more expensive by the day.
So I don't really know if I should go or not. I want these things to be in the past and I want to get over it. Its just really hard because it was a lot of bullshit to take.
So, please give me your opinions. 
Thanks in advance :)

? · Accepted Answer

No don't go look at it this way they picked on you once. then when you meet for the second time they started again and you blow up and spoke your mind which you had the right to do, So first are you sure they want you to come ! second your going to be stuck there for the duration of the trip if they start again what then more augments more upset is it worth it ?
if they was sorry about any of the things they said to you there is such a thing as a telephone they could have rang and apologised have they: no! so why expect anything different

Edit:- and if you stop and think about this if they criticised your cloths etc at home, what are they going to make of holiday/ vacation wear. 
plus if you don't go then they will realise IF they have the brains just how much upset they caused you! and it might just make them think twice about how the treat the other who are going !
it is also not down to you to make amends for what happened they was in the wrong not you let them be the ones to make the peace if you do it they will see it as you admitting you was wrong so then you will really cop for it big time in this situation don't back down !

Finwie · Answer

If you can afford the trip, then perhaps go and try to make amends. You're definitely NOT in the wrong to talking back to your uncle, they had no right to continuously criticize you like that. But maybe consider having an exit strategy in case they still do this and refuse to listen to your side of it?

Sur La Mer · Answer

Your choice, if you want drama, GO.  If you want a peaceful life, being YOURSELF, don't.

People shouldn't judge you by your hair, clothes, etc. . . . and when it gets into a huge fight, THOSE PEOPLE? Are not worth my lifetime!  I want to live in a stress-free zone!  I want to live long @ be free to however I want to live my life. I'm not 3 years old!

What do you think?

William · Answer

U chose

Pearl L · Answer

i wouldnt go if you have to deal with all that

far · Answer

come

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So should I go or not go?

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