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My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 8 months. We are pretty serious. However, we both have traumatic pasts. As a result, we both suppress our feelings a lot.

I, personally, find it difficult to express my feelings, especially negative feelings. for example, if I think you are being rude to me, it is extremely difficult for me to say it to you.

I had certain preconceived notions about my boyfriend. In a recent fight, I told them to him. He got pissed. I think he got hurt because he never thought I would think about him that way. I obviously didn't mean to hurt him that way. The weird thing is that the fight happened because I was telling him how I felt hurt because of something he said.

Anyway, he and I have kind of sorted the fight (if not entirely). He said that in his head, he has hit a reset button. So, of the 8 months we have been together, he is not going to count the last 5 months. 

Now, in his head, we have been together only for 3 months. He said he wants to go back in time to resume our relationship at a stage when I hadn't yet formed those thoughts about him. He also said that if we do have to part, it will be easier if he thought we were together for 3 months instead of 8.

Now, I feel weird because that's like him telling me that the last 5 months didn't mean anything. Somewhere I also know that he said that out of fear of getting hurt.

If you have read my problem, please tell me what you think. I would really appreciate it.

Thank you.

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I am appearing for actuarial examinations from the Institute of Actuaries, India. I gave my first attempt ever in May, 2015. The results came in yesterday. I failed miserably. I got an FD which is literally code for buzz off.

I feel terrible. I studied a lot for this exam. I really really want to be an actuary. I feel like committing suicide. But my dream of being an actuary wouldn't be complete if I am not alive.

I don't know how to deal with this. If I tell my parents they'll be super disappointed in me. And my grandmother would insist on me getting married. I'm only 21. I have dreams. Please please help me! Tell me what to do! This is so crushing...

Mine does. Its probably because of her anger issues. But those are not pretty words and its not a good feeling.

So just wondering if anyone out there faces similar things.

Hi. I have no idea about computers. I recently found out that someone had hacked my WiFi password. I googled and somehow managed to change my password.

Now, all the devices in my house are connected to the WiFi. But I have this PC which uses Windows XP Professional 2002 and its somehow not getting connected to the WiFi.

I tried 'Forget Connection' and it didn't work.

I asked one of my friends and he said that I should reinstall drivers. I don't really know what that meant. So I googled and found out that I need to update my version and when I do that, the drivers will automatically be reinstalled and the internet connection will start working again.

The problem is that I don't have the cd used for update. I'm not sure how to go about things anymore. The internet doesn't work and I'm not sure if I can download and update on my laptop, feed it in a cd and feed it to my pc.

Please help?

So my uncle and aunt have been around since I was a kid. I have played with their daughter and we share a pretty good relationship.

However, some years back I went to a trip with them and my brother. My uncle and aunt gave me a hard time about the way I dress, the way I talk and everything about me. Honestly, nobody had ever said things like that to me. I don't want to sound conceited. But I am pretty well-behaved and I dress alright.

Anyway, at a recent gathering, when my uncle kinda again started telling me everything that is wrong with me, I snapped. I know I was rude. But it was too much to take.

I felt guilty. But i haven't gotten a chance to apologize. Moreover, I am not even sure if I want to.

Now my uncle and aunt have moved to Singapore and their daughter and my brother are visiting them. One of my other aunts is going too. I don't know if I should go. Back in May I told them that I might have examinations. But now they know that I don't and my mom has told me to make a quick decision because the tickets are getting more expensive by the day.

So I don't really know if I should go or not. I want these things to be in the past and I want to get over it. Its just really hard because it was a lot of bullshit to take.

So, please give me your opinions.

Thanks in advance :)