Friend-zoned. Should I play hard to get?

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Texting him used to be like pulling teeth and I was clingy. He friend-zoned me in February. We stopped texting for a while. He went to college, the same one I am going to next year. The girl he thought he was getting back with didn't want him back, he didn't make a lot of new friends in college and he became lonely.

We started texting again when I applied and got accepted there. Now he starts a good portion of convos out of the blue and they're are exciting, interesting, and deep. I haven't replied to the last text yet. If I play hard to get, can I gain the upper hand and get him to chase me? It's shallow but I think it would work. I need him to know I won't accept being his replacement or "last resort" when he's lonely even if I have feelings for him.

Elaine · Answer

Why can't you accept things the way they are?  He texts and you have good conversations.  So why not let things progress naturally.  It sounds like you really want payback because you were friend zoned.  In the long run power struggles don't really work.

G00GIE · Answer

Do what you feel the urge to do. Playing hard to get could backfire and hell think youre not interested just like you did when he wasnt texting you. If he reciprocates the action, its all good. if he doesnt oh well life goes on. Dont get caught up on one boy. Youre going to college. Youll have a lot of options to choose from.

steven w · Answer

this honestly makes me laugh. it's all fine and dandy if a guy gets friend zoned but god forbid it happens to a girl

Anonymous · Answer

You got all the marbles and you are in the zone

He is hooked reel the dear boy in before he develops a boil
Take it slow.good good

april ludgate · Answer

uh
no
why do you people insist on doing this sht

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Friend-zoned. Should I play hard to get?

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